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16 hours ago, Lambert said:

this is your own double standard that supports your own rationalization of why you were cheated on.

13 hours ago, Capricorn3 said:

We'll have to agree to disagree.  This is clearly your own double standards (imo).

16 hours ago, Lambert said:

this is your own double standard that supports your own rationalization of why you were cheated on.

16 hours ago, tattoobunnie said:

Sounds like this was the only time she was caught.  Sorry, dude, but people cheat for a myriad of reasons, and sometimes it's just selfishness, and not always an emotional investment with either sex.  I know you are probably feeling low, and looking for reasons, but I guarantee this is someone you don't want in your life or ever marry.

17 hours ago, Coily said:

Strongly disagree on that. Having read through many many posts on this forum, and from knowing people who had affairs, women and men will have an affair for what ever reason the feel like. Acting as if one reason to cheat is slightly less bad than the other is just as specious.

Your GF acted scummy, the question is do you want to deal with the possibility she'll just get all horny again and throws her self on anything that gets her excited?

I belive its wrong weather men or women cheat . I just belive While generalizations are difficult, research shows there are some gender differences when it comes to infidelity and its impact on relationships. Statistically, when men engage in infidelity the relationship ends less frequently than when women do, around 61% versus 39% of the time according to available data. However, it is important not to overgeneralize or make assumptions about any individual based on broader trends. So when I say worse I. Mean worse for the relationship statistically speaking  due to the odds of the relationship ending

On 2/24/2024 at 5:24 PM, Capricorn3 said:

I'm not sure if you're being serious here but if you are, I find it rather disturbing.  Cheating, no matter what gender, is equally wrong and equally bad.  No mistakes and no excuses. It all comes down to the same morals and values with both genders (imo).

Like no I agree its equally wrong. But when I say worse I mean that men can cheat out of primal instinct aka horney and  that be it with Wemon  there is usually an emotional component to it so likely have bonded to another 

I.e men cheat and be nothing g more but when wemon cheat its more of an affair then cheating 

On 2/22/2024 at 12:58 PM, Wiseman2 said:

Are you dating her? How old is she?  Did you have sex with her? Was alcohol involved? Please be careful with double standards. 

I am dating her she is 30 yes we have kids together and together for ten years no she was sober.and double standards I belive have a place in society in certain things i.e why we on cheat vs men and why generally speaking a women cheating is worse than a man due to usually if a women cheats its more emotio ally driven if a man cheats its usually physically driven 

Me personally yes if im not attracted I don't get aroused it repulsed me but if i close my eyes and don't think  then sure maybe 

I asked because my gf of almost 10 years and fiancee of 6 cheated on me with one of my friends . Now my ex friend . And it was someone that is not in her league. Looks and maturity and financially.  And she stated she did out of impulsivity.  and that he made a move and by time she was able to think about what she was doing and the consequences it was too late. 

I mean as a man I could see it but even I still need to be physically attracted  

Is it possible for a girl to be so impulsive that they would have sex with someone they are not even. Attracted to emotionally or physically.