BunnyGirlR

Just now, TheCrow said:

I've always found the  'we met at 16, been together 30 years, I've never wanted anyone else' set ups bewildering. Wanting to experiment sexually when young is not just natural, it's biology-driven.  OP is nowhere near ready to settle down with one man for the rest of her life. There is nothing wrong with either her or him. She just needs to live her life, explore, experience, sample, learn and grow,  And then find her forever man.

My point exactly. 

It's a hell of a lot of fun. Not fair to do it behind a partner's back though. There's nothing wrong with it provided nobody is being deceived.  

The question is, is he right? You've already said you don't want to stop have having sex with him. He doesn't sound to me like he wants to stop having sex with you either. The other guy sounds like a weirdo. I'd definitely bin the dating one and to be honest I'd probably keep having fun with the first one for the time being. 

It's actually quite straightforward once you realize that love and sexual attraction are not the same thing. You love your bf, that's not in doubt. But also you like the idea of having sex with this other guy. Not for love, just for fun. Don't feel bad about that. It's perfectly normal and not something to beat yourself up over. Of course acting on that desire would cause a lot of issues. But having the desire isn't in itself something bad.