Jojo1972

Yes tattoo. No significant ones

One more point that I think is being missed. Her guy crush actually preferred men himself. I didn't think that made a difference. She was still pretty vocal about her attraction. Respectfully but still.... make a difference ?

Well put. Comprehended. Thank you ☺

I'm less looking for relationship advice and more view on tattoo

I'm less looking for relationship advice, more asking views of the tattoo... meaning ? Appropriate or not...... any thoughts you have ?

Actually no distrust. I don't think you read all of the details. Wanting to know who this person is that my future wife wants a tattoo of is .... normal. No place easier to answer that question than fb. Would you want to know if your sig other wanted a tattoo of an unknown to you person of the gender of preference

I didn't know anything about this friend or who they were. It seemed weird. Curious how he fit into the equation . Friend ? Boyfriend ? More ? Not sure... no conversation of him ever. So a tattoo was like .... who ? What ?

Thank you for your input. I appreciate it.

Thank your for your view. I appreciate the input.

Yes, just boyfriend girlfriend... getting married this year.

I am still struggling as to the reason for the tattoo... At this point anyways. I understand a bunch of friends going right after together.. Or just going yourself right after... It wasn't something you did all of these years.. You never mentioned it.. So this person was a good friend but how significant as far as tattooing.. When describing the friendship it was music in common. Not anything special shared in the friendship... But a clear sign of a crush and wishful thinking... I know I probably sound like a huge jerk. Please help me understand this situation. I can accept that perhaps I am not looking at it correctly. Is it justified is it not.. Is a tattoo seeming to be a very important thing with what is described.. What are you seeing as the reason for the tattoo with all information provided. Help me not feel like an absolute jerk. And either support or not this tattoo that may be coming.

51 years old. When not in a relationship she was always a social butterfly and didn't make great choices. In a relationship, as I've known since we've known each other forever, she is pretty straight and well behaved. Blends with whatever her partner, party or homebody and is content. She is pretty jealous, watches other woman liking or commenting on my Facebook. Trusts me but still jealous and has monitored. Asked me to delete an old flame ish of mine from overc20 years ago that I don't interact with except a thumbs up on an occasional fb post. Literally 1 a year, if that. I've asked myself. If I had an old friend I wishful thought to be able to be with but wasn't the right type, hair color, weight, financial status, gender, etc.. but certainly would have been trying otherwise.... Would I think a memorial tattoo now, years passed, I didn't memorialize my sibling whom I love.... is off ? Might look off to my partner ? We recently had an issue of her commenting on tik tok videos where comments should have been left out. 😍 damn ! Etc.... Did I mention , my marriage of 30 years, my wife was a heavy porn addict. Hours a day while I worked, neglected me completely. It ultimately ended us. I did not believe in divorce but .... So I maybe sensitive but I also have great morals and old fashioned thoughts. This is all very new to me.

My girlfriend of over a year, recently mentioned getting memorial tattoo for a guy she used to hang out with in a friend group setting who passed 5 years ago, everyone was supposed to get a specific tattoo but she never did, now feels bad and wants to. This is the first im really hearing (She has a sister who passed 7 years ago and I've seen many tears shed but no mention of tattoo for her) I'm curious, I look up guy, ok friend group. I ask what prompted it ? Guilt that other people got the tattoo... she said no.. I asked was this someone of significance to you, no... he only dated boys. Ok.. something seemed off. I asked what her feelings were, she blushed, smiled, got uncomfortable, said well, she had voiced her opinions many times, he was very nice looking. Rambled some. Described reason for tattoo and description of friendship.... used to hang in a group, parties, concerts, liked a mutual band. (Not anything significant , hung out with the group of many) I'm more curious...later i look up guy on Facebook. I feel bad but something feels weird. Click pictures... OK, numerous where she comments OMG or DAMN... One where they are together and mistaken for a couple, comment that he's a handsome man, her response was I WISH, and yes, he is a handsome man. I feel bad that it feels weird to me. (We recently had an issue with her commenting on male tiktok videos that wasn't exactly, appropriate, very recent) all cleared up. I genuinely believe she was oblivious. Deleted account, 10,000 followers, etc. I feel we are great together but I also don't want to feel bad. I don't want to be an insensitive jerk either. Tattoo or no tattoo Thoughts ?