Munster

Thanks to all of you! Even though some people misinterpret me and act like I'm overstepping boundaries, which I'm not because I'm a very respectful and considered person, I appreciate any input. It has helped me to calm down after a painful rejection and that's all I was looking for.

Come on, you know it's different for men than for women. And it's about the kind of smile you give people.

I was speaking generally, not about my personal situation.

I'm not trying to practise anything on her. I thought I had made it clear that I liked her. My intentions are not superficial or purely sexual. Please don't give me advice about my workplace, you don't know my workplace! I fully respect her decision to reject me and I won't pursue her further unless we develop a healthy communication. I think I made that very clear!

Well, I don't know what it's like to be a woman, but I do know a bit about men. She is definitely attractive and when she walks around smiling at people the way she smiled at me, the guys line up behind her and never give her a moment to herself anymore. I can tell you that.

Well, if you not have a problem with getting hit on constantly, yes, then it's no problem.

I understand that and for sure it's a healthy attitude but it's also kind of a superficial approach because not everybody is sure about his or her feelings at the start of a relationchip. Of course, if these girls show a bad attitude, then screw em' but sometimes it's also good to give people some space if you care about them.

I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm not that kind of person. I liked her from the first moment I saw her because of her charisma and I did not try to get close to her because I thought she gave me romantic vibes - that developed later. I just liked her and wanted to get to know her and I would never speak badly about her because she rejected me.

Thank you! These are the kind of comments you like to read when such things have happend.

It's not about focusing on her, it's about focusing on myself and growing for myself; dealing with the issues I've discovered in the process. I can only attract her again from a distance by simply being a better version of myself. Then I'll see if she wants to talk to me again, and if she does, I'll just try to be a good man by listening to her and asking her questions about herself and making her laugh. That's it.

I know I'm overthinking things, but it's also a process of self-reflection. I'm aware that there's a possibility that I misread her, but if I did, she must have a serious problem with a lot of guys misreading her.

Thx! I said I won't pursue her anymore. If there's a chance of re-attraction it should be "naturally".

Would really like to hear a female opinion on this one!

Thank you! I will be polite and professional. The work situation is something I've also thought about; why I hesitated, but I'm also no friend of this non-believing mentality. Most things in life come with the ability to believe in yourself and the thinking is: I know I attracted her once and I think I know why. So I think I could attract her again if I could get rid of the things that put her off, because as I wrote: I think I know what put her off and those are things I'd like to get rid of for myself anyway. Of course it shouldn't just be about her, but if I can believe in myself, then anything is possible. The challenge is to believe in myself as much as possible. Dating in the meantime and exploring other options is something one should do, of course.

Thx for your opinion! One question since I'm new here and I don't know you. Is this a female or a male opinion?