Kandy02

We’ve been together for a couple years but have known each other for 14 years. We both have full time jobs however currently both living separately with our families but actively looking for a place to move into together. The wedding is far off because we already have 6 weddings to attend in 2024 and would rather have time to enjoy the engagement and take our time with planning. We’re both planning the wedding together and i’m very thankful that us starting a family together and planning a wedding are something that we are both very excited about however we’re torn between what to prioritize.

My fiancé and I have our wedding set for 2025 but we also want a kid. Ideally we’d want a kid next year before turning 30 (in 2025) but thinking about the expenses (wedding, finding a place to live, having a baby) and knowing that my pay would lessen if I were to go on maternity leave just scares me. We also already put a deposit down for our wedding date and I have a possibility for a promotion next year…. I can tell my fiancé really wants a kid and so do I but the finances just scares me and I keep thinking would we even be able to handle/afford a wedding before the kid turns 1? What should I do?