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We both work full-time and live 1-hr away from each other. I am happy, and just wonder what other couples are doing.

Hi Everyone,

How often should a couple (3-6 months dating) see each other or talk ?  I see my boyfriend once a week (typically on Saturday) and talk over the phone 2-3 times a week. We text each other every day.  Is that normal?

Thanks !

3 hours ago, Batya33 said:

No.  He doesn't know you.  He's just looking for someone to fill the role of future wife and it's creepy.  That is why you're overwhelmed.  He simply wants an insta relationship.

Be stable financially on your own -are you? Have a good stable job -do you? Can you afford half of a mortgage on a house and half of living expenses?  Certainly there are couples where one person is the main financial provider but the other person should be financially stable and able to handle expenses on his/her own just in case -in case of divorce, illness, whatever.  Why in the world are you ok with his behavior this fast? 

I have a good job and financially stable. Money is not an issue for us. I am not OK with moving so fast, and that's why I am here.

He is stable financially, has a good stable job. As a matter of fact, he is trying to buy a house for us. He is nice to me, sending flowers, talking me to nice shows etc. it’s just overwhelming.  He sent me today a link to a beautiful venue he is thinking for our wedding.

I've been dating someone for about 2 months, we both work full time and live about 1 hour away from each other.  I'm happy to see him on weekends and some weekday nights, for example, on Valentines day. We talk by phone a couple of times a week. 

He wants to see me more often and is trying to sell his condo and move closer to me. In the mean time, he wants to come to my place after work and wait for me to finish work. That's a bit too much for me based on the fact that we know each other only for 2 months. He talks a lot and I need a quiet time by myself after work. 

Any suggestion on how to handle this situation?

30 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

Why are you keeping a physical distance? Are you ok with hugging goodbye or holding hands? Do you desire to kiss this person? My mom used to say if a guy didn't try to kiss me by the 4th date there was something amiss (she dated one person seriously -my dad! -married 62 years).  I'm concerned about how aloof you are being -are you afraid?

I did goodnight hugs but nothing more. I wanted to make sure to know them well before we became intimate. I din't want to send wrong messages.

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately there are a lot of one and done dates, whether it was a flop or was a great time or kissed or had sex or whatever. Unfortunately things fizzle.

It's fine to go on a few dates and not jump into anything you're not comfortable with.  Also keep in mind in the early stages you're both still talking to and meeting others, so anything can happen.

Are you attracted to them?  Just curious if you are actively participating and reciprocating by inviting them out as well or just passively waiting for calls and dates. 

I was attached to them and was trying to get to know them better. I did actively engaged by texting, calling, and suggesting what we could do next. During the first several dates, I kept a physical distance. 

Hello

I need your advice. Over the last several months, I met nice guys and had some fun dates, but then they stopped calling me.  Those guys wanted to move forward more quickly than I did. I typically need more than a few days before I get physically close to someone new. I feel that has been my problem. Do you think it's a deal breaker,  for example, if we don't kiss by 3rd dates? That doesn't men I didn't like them at all, but I needed more time to feel comfortable.

Thanks

12 hours ago, Batya33 said:

But who asked 

I initiated once and he did the rest.

3 hours ago, Batya33 said:

Agree with the others. It’s easy to be a chat buddy. The only sign a man wants to date you is if he ask you out on a date he plans in advance. Have you asked him out for a date you plan ? How many dates have you been on ?

We've been on 4 dates. We planned them together.

I started dating this guy about a couple of months ago. The first month went very well and we both enjoyed spending time together. However, since our last data a couple of weeks ago, he stops asking me to go out. When I texted him a few times, he always responded with messages and sometimes with pictures. But he said things like, "Just came home, tired, and want to sleep soon" or "Have so much to do with work", made me feel that I should not ask for another date. I am almost certain that he has decided not to pursue me. But then why he keeps communications with me?  I really like this guy and wonder if there is anyway to get him back. Suggestions?