Darrinmtec

I been hanging out with this girl.  We have met up 9 times now and I have developed feelings for her but each time we been out there has been no flirting or physical touch and not one of us have initiated it either.  There has also been no signs from her to even make a move either.  It’s getting kind of frustrating because im not sure how she feels.   Everytime I initiate she accepts but it seems it’s just not progressing the way I want.  Should I talk to her about it.  For content she has also just got out of a 4 year relationship 1 year ago also

9 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

All what meetups?

There were only 2. Correct? And you haven't actually met up with her again in weeks now - and the last time she told you all about her ex. 

My guy, this is not a woman with a serious interest in dating you. 

You’re right we haven’t met up again since then we have been planning to but our schedules are very different we haven’t got the chance.  She has been the one initiating I backed off after the second date she has reached out to me with all I mentioned.  This past weekend we were suppose to meet at her place but a medical emergency that she had the doctor told her to rest that day and she said she wasn’t feeling great but we would reschedule for the next day.  The next day she said she still was feeling bad so we canceled again but she said I hope this doesn’t mess with future meetings

18 minutes ago, SherrySher said:

She has already told you..."friend only", and the second date was to have someone listen to how she is not over her boyfriend.

I'm a woman, I can tell you, that if she is still telling you about her ex boyfriend, she is saying in no uncertain terms that she is still thinking about him, she is still hurting over him, and she is not over him.

 

Well I agree she probably isn’t over him it has only been like 8 months.  I just like this women but it might be to hard to hang out with her.  Why is she initiating all these meet ups then.

2 minutes ago, SherrySher said:

The first date she let you know that it's not going to be a relationship. Please listen to her.

Second date, she showed you in no uncertain terms that she is not over her ex.

Switch your thinking now to viewing this person as a possible friend only, but even then, it's not looking good.

The last date was 7 weeks ago and she still wants to meet up and she initiated all the meet ups so far there has to be something there.

She is work colleague of mine and we are in touch a bit through text.  I see her every second weekend.

I went out with this girl 2 times in September both times I spent about 5 hours with her.  After the date I told her my intentions in which she said that in this time in her life she is looking for solid friends only it’s all she has to give (she just got out of a 4 year relationship in feb of this year).  On the second date she went completely off on her ex in all negative ways including how bad he was to her which disappointed me because this meetup was suppose to be us getting to know each other better.  Since those last 2 dates I figured I wanted to try a 3rd time and so far we haven’t been able to get out schedules figured out.  She has though mentioned going to a concert, meeting for lunch and going to her apartment to talk which we were suppose to do last weekend but a medical thing kept her from it but she did say we can reschedule and did mention I hope this doesn’t cause problems for future meet ups.

i am trying to figure out this girl has her feelings changed.  How do I persue this but no over persue.