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I respect everybody's opinion but like I said I own a nightclub & that is the environment that I am in. I never knew that drinking is connected with being immature. Being immature is a complete attitude & not defined by any one characteristic. I run my own successful business, I employ several people & a lot of people rely on me. That is really what maturity is because an immature person would not be able to do that. A 20 year old would not be able to do that. You can be fun & mature at the same time. Just my opinion.

No offence taken at all. I am in the nightlife & entertainment industry so I am constantly around that environment. I own an upscale entertainment space. I really thank everybody for the advice. Leaving it alone seems like the best thing to do.

Hey all, First off I really appreciate everybody's comments & feedback. It could very well be exactly what you are saying ... Just to clarify she never ignored a message. They were just late responses & she works 2 other jobs. The salon is just a part time job. She initiated new conversation with the responses as well. No response at all would have been a much clearer message but we also talk on social media outside of the salon. The confusing part was that she agreed to go out again but when I followed up she backed off. Maybe she was being polite? Maybe she thought all I wanted to do was sleep with her? She seems very guarded so I can understand that. I am certainly not her father figure, lol. I am like a 25 year old. I drink & party. If anything I would be a bad influence on her. As for the comment below ... I only said it to put her mind at ease. It has nothing to do with getting the upper hand. That thought never crossed my mind at all. I was only thinking about her comfort & I feel that she appreciated that. I don't need to play games & I am not concerned about any competition. If somebody is not interested, I move on.

Hi all, I could use some advice & I am hoping to get some other perspectives. This is the situation ... I am very social. I have been dating, been hit on by girls but I am very picky on who I would like to spend my time with as I am a busy person however there is somebody that has caught my eye at the place where I cut my hair. I see this person every 2 weeks as I go in for a haircut & a touch up every 2 weeks. I talk to her & we are very friendly. There is no doubt she likes me (not necessary in any other way other than a person). She doesn't cut hair, she is more of a receptionist however the person who does cut my hair really likes me as a person as well so the vibe is always positive. It's not like we are not strangers at a bar. As I mentioned I have spoken to her several times in her work environment. She is in her mid twenties (very pretty so she gets hit on a lot) & I am a very younger looking early forties but she is more mature & I am more immature so mentally I feel we are the same! lol However age has been on my mind as a potential barrier. She mentioned one day that she had never been to a specific sporting event & I usually have tickets to it so I asked her if she wanted to go & she was very excited about it. She said "you are the best" & we went out. The entire evening was a very fun time. She messaged me after & said she had a lot of fun. I said I did too & that it would be fun to do it again sometime but there was no response. I see her again at her place of work & it's a good vibe like always. She finally responds to my original message about going out again days after I left the salon saying it would be nice to get together again to "catch up". I said maybe in the upcoming weeks we can set something up. When I eventually did reach out to take her out again, there was no response again & when I came in to get a haircut, she was surprisingly avoiding me. I took notice of it & just acted like I would normally act if she wasn't there but something was clearly off. Maybe I was coming on too strong, who knows? I didn't want to force the issue, so the next day I messaged her & I politely said I am getting very busy so I don't know when we will be able to go out again. I am the type to only put my attention where it's wanted & she has probably never heard that before so of course when I came in the next time she was extra friendly to me giving me a hug & trying to talk to me a little bit more. She has been very friendly since saying things like "you are the best" (again), "You are loved here" (meaning the salon) & when she was visiting friends in Europe she mentioned something reminded her of me which are all positive things. A part of me wants to just leave it but another part of me really likes her & it's not that easy for me to really like somebody but that is the case. On one hand she showed she wasn't comfortable but on the other she has been extra friendly since. Is she just a friendly person? Maybe but it's certain by the way she acts around me & she likes me to some degree. Maybe age is a factor, who knows? There is another sporting event she mentioned she was interested in attending & I am confident if I asked to go she would want to however I also would want to take her out when there is no real reason behind it. It's kind of a confusing situation because I have seen very positive signs but I have seen very negative signs too. I was thinking of taking her to this sporting event & at some point mentioning to her that I would like to take her out again but I can think of a few reasons why that could be a bad idea & gauge her response. That way I am showing interest but I am also not showing interest at the same time in case she does have barriers that she is not talking about. Thoughts on this rather confusing situation?