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The thing is, I do not want to make him stop looking at videos or porn. I don't have any issue with this, even if he will watch the same models as on social media on a porn website. I am also thinking about what is exactly bothering me about social media, and I think for me the biggest issue has to do with the communication part. For me, on social media I follow my friends, talk with them etc. So I see it as something personal, a way of trying to be in touch with someone and share personal things. So for me, following these girls feels like he tries to contact them. I thought about this yesterday, and this was my conclusion. Also, with this conclusion, I am wondering if behind my feelings there is somehow a trust issue. In february we had an argument about social media, because he was putting smileys with heart eyes and fire smileys under a somewhat sexy picture of a friend of him. I also know her, so I saw this on insta and I felt very hurt, because from my point of view, I do not send these kind of things to any boy because I don't feel the need + I think it could hurt my boyfriend feelings. We spoke about this, I did let him know that for me these kind of things were over my boundaries and for me it felt like only cheating. He explained that for him these smileys are an empty gesture for him, and if he did send these smileys to a friend, that it is for fun (joking around), supporting or just bull ***.. Most of his friends are younger than him, and he told me that for the little bit younger generation these smileys etc. do not mean a lot, that they post and like and comment a lot on everything. In fact I am not insecure about my body and I feel confident, it is just that all these woman are not like me at all.. so it makes me doubt if he likes me, even if he says so. It are all woman with big botox lips and boobs 😜 I think tonight I will talk to him about above. We really do have a nice relationship, we have fun together and we like to be together but these things are stressing me out and messing with my head all day.

@rainbowsandrosesThank you for your advice. I know that it isnt fair to ask him to stop these kind of thinks.. I also told him this when we started the conversation about this subiect. So i never asked him to stop, it already helped to share my feelings. But he told me that following these models did not matter to him at all, and that liking their picture was something he does almost automatically with every picture he sees. So he indicated it was not important to him at all and that he preffered not hurting my feelings, so by his own decision he stopped this things. But it confuses me than that he starts to do the same things on another social media, of which he also knows that I can see it.

He is 33 and I am 29. Our in person relationship is fine. We do have small arguments sometimes, but everything is fine and we are both happy. The thing is, I understand everybody masturbates and I am fine with him watching porn etc. that doesn't matter to me at all. But the following and liking models publicly is just feeling immature for me, it's making me angry and sad. He said that sometimes he is feeling insecure because he had relationships in which the woman were sort of dependent of him. I am very independent and for him it feels like he can't always offer things / feel manly towards me. And also, when we first had sex, he had some issues.. it didn't bother me, in fact I even thought it was cute, because I thought he was nervous. Well, he told me that this made him insecure. So on these points he is somewhat insecure, but I try to take the insecurity away. In fact, I do not want to police his activities and what he is viewing, but I just don't want to know I think, because it's hurting me. So following and liking is driving me crazy.

Hi guys, I would like to have your advice on this one. Some weeks ago I had a conversation with my BF because he was following and liking all kinds of models on Insta. I know some girls don't mind, but I do. I was not feeling good about it, especially because: 1. I tend to compare myself with these girls. Which makes me insecure 😞 2. All my friends and family can see that he follows these girls, so for me it's really a feeling of disrespect to follow these models. So we had a conversation about this, i told him it really hurts me to see these kind of things and I made it clear that for me it's a big thing. Well, my BF told me he was sorry, he understood my feelings and he stopped following them. For me this was a sign that he cares about me and my feelings. But lately, my BF has made an account on Tiktok, so of course I added him on tiktok, and I saw he is following all kind of models again.. 😞 Which makes me very sad. Because he created his account some weeks after we had the conversation, so he knows how I feel about this topic. So I really don't know if I am making a big problem in my head, or what I should do with this. What should you do? We are 1,5 year together btw. Thank you for your advice! <3