David501

Yes..good points. Any termination is always a sad moment.. I am preparing me for the worse. Not that I sit sad at home or so. I keep busy by working out, doing DIY stuff in the house. PlayStation again, movies, see friends. If it will finish it's a part of life. Still we always have some kind of hope, which is normal I guess.

Yes I also believe she likes me and yes could be afteronths she saw that web are not compatible. But knowing her, she would have said it..so that makes it just strange for me.

Not in this case. That I am 100% sure, trust me

Yes she told me. She said that when we ste together she is 100% happy. She says I am just perfect. Not like her ex BFs where they didn't pay attention as she would like. She says she is overwhelmed and when she is alone she doesn't feel like she can commit a 100% and it makes her crazy/sad.... she wants to find out why it's happening to her as she finds it not fair against me. She does meditation like yoga and stuf like that. But today I thought it might she is stressed as her sister, who lives above her will have a stomach reduction and the sister comes a lot to her complaining about her husband..and she is now in high period of work. So maybe all that and then me in her life in the few spare time is overwhelming her. Could that be? That all that creates a stress and you need time off from everybody? I hope it's that.

Her last relationship was end 2020. 2,5 years ago

What I wonder is how people can suddenly go from 100 towards 50%? What can be influence for that? Because I was perfect she said. She said she can't find a bad thing about me . Surely other stuff must influence such a behaviour not? Work? Family?...

Commitment phobe. interesting. Never thought about it. But suddenly? I mean she talked about future plans, where tive, meeting my daughter,.... and then suddenly such a thing? Shouldn't that then be more step by step going down? Or is it something that happens suddenly?

That's what I think. For many reasons and the first is that she has broken with her previous BFs without any issue.Said it right in the face and when they started to as why and chatted het she blocked them. And when I asked if she wanted to break up she avoided to give answer and only said she needed alone time. Ofcourse I can be wrong, tine will tell I assume. And no I will not wait months. That's why I would like to hear from people who had the same experience and what was the result. It would be a pitty if we would not continue. Extra question. Do women who are starting the menopauze could have depression like this? That they want to alone, feel without energy, can't follow my fast pace of life. As she told me when we started she thinks she is in the menopauze. She has warmth attacks during the summer. Anybdy of the woman can confirm this experience? Thx all for supporting me

Yes I understand. I did contacted her two days ago..she replied that she is doing fine but needs to see if she is prepared and will contact me and ask to respect that she doesn't want to have contact. I didn't replied to that. I will just leave it like that and concentrate on myself for a while . I can Imagine she needs time maybe after so much time alone. Maybe I am very good in sympathy, don't know. But ofcourse I will not wait for ever, that's clear. I would expect she would chat sometimes but maybe she really wants to be alone. I assume we were totally in love as we talked about the future, we managed to get her dog and .y cat living together already.... But maybe as it happened with you she might realize it's better off alone. I will know it in short time. Thx for sharing your experience

Yes. You have a point with that. I expected at least some news after a couple of days. Maybe I will send a WhatsApp and see if she reacts today. If not then it's clear

Yes you are right. It doesn't mean the way she said it it will go well. Still anybody needs sometimes space/time into a relationship especially in the beginning as for some people it's overwhelming. But how long would I wait before contacting her? And if she doesn't answer I know how late it is.

You are right. Each person is different and it's difficult to put a global rule to it. What I read was 30 days is a good time to wait. What you tell me indeed it's frustrating as she seems to wants you but on a distance. At least she keeps contact. I know I am still in the beginning as we haven't chatted or spoken for 9 days. What confuses me is that my GF said in our last call if she didn't like me or wanted to leave our relationship she would have told me. Not asking space/time. She also always blocked her ex BF as she find it useless to have contact with them. Also some really were harassing her by calling her day/night. She hasn't blocked me. The next day she chatted me that she appreciated a lot my comprehension for the situation. I said it can happen in each relationship and I hope she would find the balance so we can continue together our journey she reacted with a ❤️ on that. Seeing this I believe/hope it's a moment thing and that she wants to find the balance. She has been single for 2,5 years and now suddenly a person in her life. Her reason is that she wants to commit 100% to the relationship and she feels she isn't doing that and wants to know why. She does a lot of meditation and relaxing stuff and now she is sometimes missing that, that I know. So I see something the same as you with your GF, she has the horses, mine meditation and relaxing. I also like this girl as she gives me something I need, relaxing and enjoying life. She gives me that balance. And as I am a person who is a busy Bee it's the perfect balance. During my marriage I did everything from cleaning, cooking,... taking care of the kids. So I am used to do everything and she gives me the relaxing moments. And I don't like the idea loosing that neither. As you said in the last part, yes it's not a kind relationship you want. I had once one that after 3,5 years it broke because her kid wasn't nice to mine and she didn't wanted to do anything. After 2 months discussion I asked if the relationship was over. She said yes. So I moved on. I found s new partner..she came crying to me telling me she still loved me, saw me in a dating site. I said no.. I am always that once it's over its over. So with this GF I want to be sure before doing that. What would you recommend me? Shall I try to contact her or better wait 1 more week? And then just send a small whatsapp? And if she doesn't answer we know it's not worth it, not? We could take to eachother interchanging experience, we are going through the same situation.

Thx for telling your story. When your GF said she wanted space, did you chatted after that on a daily basis? Because that's the thing with mine. She said she needs to be alone, not calling, chatting, nothing. She wants to meditate as she says it helps her putting her minds at ease. We had a similar moment in July, for just a couple of days. And she now days that she doesn't want to happen again as she wants to be 100% into the relationship. So from my side I am afraid if I chat I will push her more away. But yes on the other hand I can't wait forever. In your case, it's logical if you see no improvement will be there you will continue with your live also. Thx for the tips. I am trying to be patient.. sometimes I just want to text her that I won't wait and will continue but then after thinking clearly I know I must be patient and give her space. Maybe next weekend I might chat her and see what she will say or even call? I don't know for sure. Maybe wait another week? Maybe 5-6 months is like a point if no return? I never had this with previous Gf, It's the first who says she needs space. I just hope it means she doesn't want to break up and really wants to find her balance. Surely it's not a slow dumping or so. When your GF asked for space did she continued chatting with you? Or did you started? And how long between she told she wanted the space and the first chat? And what was the chat? Something like "how are you?" Thx for your story and helping me. I hope you will be with your GF soon again and it's just a phase

For what I know she didn't had this before..she told me that her longest relationship was 5 years. Her mother died Nd at work there was a lot of stress. Si she meet a guy without a job but he helped her in the house dog,... she worked long hours (Lawyer firm). Everything was ready when she came home, clean house,etc... she didn't loved the guy and he knew it. Another relationship of 1 year was a guy who then psychology threatened her, so she rented a place, and waited until he left the house. Layer she heated he was arrested for beating up another girl. Them she had done relationships of 2,3,6 months and she broke up with then as they didn't spend time with her as she would like. So as I spend all my time I have free with her, it confuses me. As her previous boyfriends didn't want to make time while I think it's normal to spend as much time possible with your partner. So two weeks ago she said she neede time to set her mind correct. And 8 days ago I called her and we talked 1 hour. The next day she whatsapp me with the messag to thank me for being so comprehensive and I told her it's something normal to and hopefully she could find the balance so we can continue our project of life together. She answered with a heart emoji. No we are 8 days after that call and I have no news. I know she isn't on any social network (before she wasn't that much neither). So I think she might really want to find the balance. Although I want to call I believe it's best to give her the space. Shall I wait another week or 2 before sending a how are you doing text? Or wait longer. I really don't want to push her, but neither wait as a stupid dog.

We both have our own place. She is 51 and I am 52( don't laugh, hahaha. But we both look 6-8 years younger). She has no kids and mine are mostly with my ex. She knows my daughters We hang out at my and her place. Sometimes we sleep over..but as her dog can't be alone for a long time she leaves at 3 a.m. I have a cat. We managed to bring them together in August and we were so happy they liked eachother. So we were happy we could sleep over more with our pets. When we were together on a daily basis several times a day and a call after her work at 23 hours. She did mentioned that calling each night broke her way of doing stuff after work. So we changed that by just chatting or every other day. I believe she doesn't wants to break up as she told me if she would she has told me already as she saus it's not fair to hold somebody on a string. Do you think it would be ok to send a WhatsApp asking how she is doing after 2 or 3 weeks? Or better waiting her to contact me? I don't wanna push as she is a very nice person and she even talked in the summer how great it would be getting old and living together. So you understand that I really wanna make sure she is ok. I can wait. I know if I go dating again I will have dates..but this time I want to wait if needed.