Aaron

Yes may have missed dropping age here. I am 30 M and she is 30 F I feel more embarrassed now revealing my age with this situation.

To add to this and not wanting to distort a situation but he was her romantic counter part in the performance I met him at. That when she told me he was not a threat. The performance went on for 3 weeks and it was at the end of the 3 week performance when she slept with him. Months after that, still prior to me knowing about it, she's in another show and says something along the lines that she thinks it unprofessional for anyone to sleep with their romantic stage counter part. After I find out I confronted her about that statement and go a wish wash answer on why she said that and what it meant.

This is more than the situation for me than her actions of sleeping with someone. It's the dynamic I am then forced to deal with alone with no consequences on her end. This was revealed to me after we became a committed relationship which was not the route either I would've gone. I would've rather not known or known prior going into it. I feel I was won over than the truth came out.

This is very much about the situation rather than the actions. Kinda feel dooped because it was after we became a committed relationship that I was told this. I don't think I would have said yes to being committed if knowing this prior.

My girlfriend and I have been dating since the beginning of July. We met friends back in October last year and hit it off and started seeing each other a lot. We are never officially dating but we shared a very intimate and emotional relationship. We both previously came out of long-term relationships so both little hesitant to start a new relationship. Both agreed around March that having The space to figure out if we wanted to date would be okay which would mean potentially seen other people if we wanted to but continued to see each other and share that deep intimate relationship. She is in musical theater and very committed and devoted to her singing. Fast forward to a couple days after we started dating I found out that she slept with someone who is part of the musical theater that she's part of. This was someone that she introduced me to as a group of friends that were very close to her and that she would like me to get to know a lot. I was informed they were just only friends and not to be threatened even though I never inquired that to begin with I thought was odd. I am now faced with supporting her and going to her shows and now constantly being around the individual that slept with her just 3 months before we officially started dating but during the infancy of a relationship where it was very much intimate. She said that sleeping with him was her sign that she wanted to be with me and fully committed. This is someone now that I will never be able to escape and always be around and constantly reminded that she slept with him. I'm struggling with whether or not I still want to be with her because the fact that I was introduced and shown affection and everything around this person then weeks after meeting them she slept with him just does not feel right to me though I'm fully supportive of her taking the time to try to figure out what she wanted in life. I am more so bothered by the situation I'm in and that if she honestly did consider me even the slightest as a potential partner that the future situation of having to be around this person and confronting it day in and day out would be no big deal or not weigh on me like it does. I've talked to her how this has hurt me and the situation it's put me in and her only response is well we technically weren't dating so she wasn't in the wrong which I understand. However I just can't shake the feeling and understanding that I would never do that to someone that I honestly considered to be a future partner. I just know the turmoil that it would put another individual to continually to have to see that person and what it would mean for the foundation of a relationship. I also feel a bit lied to or deceived by telling me these were friends no threats yet something did happen 3 months prior to dating then I get told after that this all happened. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if this is something I should let go.