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thank you, I really appreciate the response

It annoyed me a bit that it was an apology just to make himself feel better, as he's still friends with my ex, I said to him that if he wasn't so close to her at the time, you might not have the friendship he has with her now, so why was he apologising... But I agree, my reaction can be taken as making a fuss... I didn't accept the apology because I felt the matter was done and dusted years ago, I had made piece with it, I didn't appreciate it being brought up again just so they could feel better.

no clue, he just said he realised he was in the wrong about how he went about it and wanted to apologise

I broke up with my ex over 10 years ago. I have a family and kids etc.. now and this isnt an "ohh my ex...." post... At the time, my friend was very friendly with my ex, and began to hang out with her even more when we broke up. It sucked at the time, but, at this stage, I don't really care. But, my friend came up and apologised recently for how things were and for being so close. He said he realised it was a ***ty thing to do and wanted to apologise. First thing I asked was, had they stopped talking or something, he said no, they still talk, so I asked what's he apologising for, as if they are still friends, it might not have been the friendship it is now if he hadn't done what he did at the time. I asked out straight were they with each other, he said no, I said he missed out on a big opportunity as I could tell there was a thing there between them. Lastly, I told him whatever has happened, where he decided to grow a conscience, I didn't accept the apology, as I didn't really care and don't want to give bandwidth to an ex, and that I felt this was more about him rather than a sincere apology to me. I also called him a hypocrite as he was fuming about 2 guys doing similar to him at the time, but it was OK for him to do it to me and confide in me in the process.. Anyways.... he's more of an acquaintance after all these years now, but since the interaction, it dragged up loads of old feelings and I'm feeling quite angry over it all now.... I have always had a resentment towards my ex, because this was pretty standard stuff from her, be pretty much emotionally involved with other "friends" ,but she's never physically cheated, so I can't say shes a cheater, and my old friend who realises what he was doing but takes over 10 years to decide to say anything. I still feel I did the right thing, not making a fuss over things years ago, but sometimes for the sake of my dignity, I feel like I should have, but, I know my ex would have only engorged on some drama over her.... How do I deal with how I'm feeling... I genuinely didn't care until he said it, so did I care all along?