After analysing my past relationships, I've realised that I don't feel (or haven't identified) any needs in a relationship. In all my relationships, I've found myself wondering why I'm in them rather than enjoying life on my own (as I'm happier when single than while in relationships). People often talk about their partner or the relationship completing/fulfilling them, but I've never truly felt that I couldn't live without my partners or the relationships and consequently never felt the fear of loosing them. Looking back, relationships to me seem to have always been a nice-to-have rather than a need-to-have, and unfortunately, I've not payed sufficient attention to the needs of my partners due to this lack of connectedness.
Of course, I don't have to be in a relationship - no one is forcing me. But I do fall in love, and now I've realised my pattern of never truly feeling like I need my partners. So I'm wondering, what do people get from being in relationships. What needs in their lives does being committed to another person fulfill. I'm genuinely curious and hoping that getting insight into the experiences of others might help me understand myself better.
I believe that the fact that I keep falling in love and getting into relationships is a sign that I have needs that seek to be fulfilled from being with another person. But by not knowing/feeling those needs I repeatedly fail to make relationships work.
