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Why So Many Women Prefer Tall Men: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201306/why-so-many-women-prefer-tall-men Five Reasons Why Women and Men Care About Height: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height (Google is your friend. 😄)

You came here seeking advice, presumably from experienced and (yes) successful individuals who might be able to look into the mind of your lady friend to figure out what she's thinking. And yet, we're told (over and over again) that we can't possibly understand YOU. Well then, how can we possibly be expected to understand her? I'm wrong because I saw through your B.S. and called you out on it. Plain and simple. Others have too. I don't want to hear another word about your life's failures or hardships, because we all have had them in various forms throughout our lives. More importantly, every time you bring them up you're self-sabotaging yourself even more by re-enforcing your self-defeating mindset. Don't attack the messenger(s) because you may not even be aware of how self damaging your thoughts and actions really are. Don't blame outside forces, either. The laws of physics, chemistry, and biology that apply to everyone else, apply in your world, too. I'd say you have at least a 50% chance with this woman, but no one knows for sure because at this early stage of the game, the situation is still pretty fluid in her mind. Take the advice given to you here seriously instead of flatly rejecting it out of hand. Go with the flow, and maybe you'll be in for a pleasant surprise. And if things don't work out, be mindful of the possibility that maybe she wasn't the right woman for you after all. There are no guarantees in life. Only choices. Learn and move on (like the rest of us).

You proved my point, once again. "All you successful people are wrong." I don't care how much time or money you've spent trying to find a suitable companion. It was money and time wasted because when your friends tell you not to wear a stupid ring (for example), and you do it anyway, well... what more can be said? You're your own worst enemy. And then you say, we're the ones not listening? Hmmm....

No, you're going out of your way to look for failure so you can come back and say, "See? I was right! I'm a failure. All you successful people were wrong". And so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Lather, rinse, repeat. And it doesn't matter that she was wearing a ring. She even told you it was to deflect unwelcome attention. What's your excuse for wearing one? As far as "ugly" is concerned, I remember seeing this kid in high school who had a face that was covered in zits. I had a few myself, and felt embarrassed and shamed, but not this guy. He may have held the world's record, but he didn't wallow in self-pity. He didn't have fame. He didn't have fortune. He wouldn't even have been good looking without his zits. And yet, he was almost always surrounded by very cute girls. From what I could see, he was obviously fun to be with because the girls seemed to enjoy his company. And to be fun, you have to have a positive attitude. He didn't let his zits stop him, and neither did any of his many girlfriends. Get it? This is your thread. You posed the original question. If this isn't what you're looking for, then why are you here?

WRONG! You are sabotaging yourself. Here's just one piece of evidence: Your personal friends told you NOT to wear the ring, but you rejected their helpful advice and wore it anyway. Your lady friend noticed it, asked you about it, and you had to explain your actions to her. (Never a good thing, BTW.) You've had people here tell you it was a bad idea, and yet you still defend your actions. What useful purpose does wearing that ring provide you, anyway? It is clearly doing you no favors, but maybe that's what you want -- self-defeating self sabotage because you're unhappy with yourself. And if you're unhappy with yourself, no one else is going to be happy knowing you.