Hey all - I hope you are all doing ok.
Last night I desperately tried to tell my ex I couldn’t go on the holiday - it’s a week today, I talked about false hope, how it wouldn’t help in the long run etc - she said she knows we aren’t getting back together. She said she would like that to happen but knows that it’s not happening.
I took ages to get the courage to speak to her about it, as I still worry about her feelings. She said she would be disappointed if I pull out, that she needs a holiday and that she doesn’t want to go alone. I crumbled and backed down.
I have such an upset stomach today, always a side effect of worrying.
I was so determined not to go as it had dawned on me that it wasn’t going to help anybody in the long run.
I now have to realise I have lost the chance of being with the lady I was dating because I can’t put myself first, so she will think that she will never be top of my list either.
feel so lost