Me and My spouse {F}25 , have been together for over 10 years , she was just pregnant with our third kid , and just gave birth a few weeks back . Before she got pregnant we were working on rebuilding our intimacy in the relationship , my spouse doesn’t really ever initiate and it’s mostly comes down to me but then over the years the rejection started more and more etc . So now trying to rebuild intamacy and a sex life , then she got pregnant as we were only having sexual experiences once a month or two . And then before she got pregnant it was like once a week which was great ! Now trying rebuild back to that point , we didn’t have much sex during the pregnancy as she felt uncofrmotsble about her body , totally understand . It’s been a few months now and I am dieing inside , she’s always walking around without clothes on and now post birth , I know she’s recovering 4-6 weeks after birth the doctor says , so I was wondering I I should have a small chat with her and ask that while she’s recovering if it would be possible to recieve oral or maybe even a HJ ? Is that reasonable ? I don’t want to sound like an ass asking for that lol but I just don’t want to go masturbate to porn and I can never get relief with imagination as my mind always races . But the main thing is my spouse doesn’t ever really initiate so I feel as if I can’t just sit around waiting for nothing to happen if you know what I mean ? I’m a highly libido guy , so I’m hoping to take the right steps to rebuilding our intamacy and sex life post birth especially , since we were trying to rebuild beforehand . We cuddle every night now and I am trying very hard to not wonder my hands to intimate areas while we cuddle so that we just cuddle and build intamacy without expecting sexual things etc , which is hard because I am always horny lol and also masturbating especially using porn just always seems to make me worse and more horny . How would you guys approach this ? Thanks for the info
