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I couldn’t tell my parents unless I was absolutely certain I was going to break up with him, maybe not even then.

All things I am thinking about. Everyone in my life is making me feel crazy for caring though and I did not expect it

We have been together for around a year and I found out because he had pictures of paperwork on his cloud account. Same guy.

Same guy, yes. We have been for around 1 year. I found out because he had pictures of some of the paperwork in his phone/ipad

He just didn’t want me to know in case I wouldn’t want to keep dating him

He had to probably tell his friends and family that I thought he was divorced. Seems like there would be legal meetings

I found out that my bfs divorce was not final until a few months ago. I have been really angry about this. We have been fighting about it. I think it is a huge lie and breach of trust that he had to tell a bunch of other lies to cover up. Literally EVERYONE I have talked to about this doesn’t think it is a big deal because I know they were not together. Now I feel insane that I reacted so strongly about it. I thought people would be on my side, but they are not.

I would agree but it seems to be a one issue problem. I feel like my parents are the ones causing these problems but I am not going to stop talking to my siblings, they have done nothing wrong

Not explicitly but it is causing fights. Hopefully it won’t last long.

When I talk to family I think it just makes him think about everything and he gets in a bad mood

I am starting another job soon that will be better financially. I totally get his feelings but yeah, I wish he would just let me deal with it. It is just my parents who are doing this and he is acting this way when I talk to other members of my family like my siblings.

I am just about to graduate

I just mean that the whole idea of why people should avoid age gap relationships is because of potential manipulation, maturity levels, and power imbalance and these are all assumptions they have made only because of our age gap. He has a really good career, but has been divorced and my parents don’t like that. My friends like him fine and I really haven’t seen any major bad traits, though I’m sure he has some like everyone else.

They have been really rude to him. I feel like I am a teenager again. I told him things that I probably should not have about talks when he wasn’t around. I think their only real problem with him is the age gap and they made assumptions from that.

This particular guy. I don’t think it is that big of a deal either and he is great.