clearingskies

My partner understands and I will not be seeing him until Sunday after I drop my kids off at the airport. then I'll stay Sunday and Monday nights since Monday night we had plans with a couple from out of town. Then I'll leave Tues. thanks all

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yes he said he'd like to be there but I know it's not a good idea. too stressful to start. I'm really not up for his company right now either so I'll need to tell him I'll see him on Sunday and stay overnight since we had plans to go to dinner with another couple on Monday night and he wanted to me to stay anyway. If he gets upset, he'll have to deal with it I'm afraid.

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I can make arrangements to see him Sunday once the kids leave.

what should I do about inviting him to see me tonight and leave Thursday night before the kids arrive? Is that worse than not inviting him at all. To be honest, while I'd like to see him, you can imagine I'm not in the greatest of moods and am grieving.

one of them in particular just doesn't like being around him sometimes. Given the stress of the funeral, I'm trying to keep things as smooth as possible.

my partner never met the deceased.

we just lost a very good family friend who was like a family member to me and my kids (she helped me raise my kids from the start). Needless to say, we are devastated. The funeral is this Friday and I know my grown kids don't want my partner to be there but my partner has asked to be there. I'm ok with telling my partner it's best if they aren't there because it will be very emotional and difficult for me and my kids but then they'll want to see me over the weekend and one of my kids is out of town and isn't comfortable around my partner (long story). What should I tell my partner? I feel bad leaving them out of the funeral as well as the weekend when we typically see each other. Should I have my partner visit me tonight until my kids come over my place on Thursday night? Or is that worse than not inviting my partner at all?