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Ok, thank you for your perspective. We have been together for over 3 years. He moved in with me and my kids after a year and I asked him to move out a year and a half after that. I have tried to break up several times, but he keeps talking me into staying. After a while I just end up feeling so confused. I'm starting to think that when I do see him I do come across as unhappy because I am so guarded with walls up. He has said WAY more hurtful things in the past and I'm trying to look forward, forgive and move on, but maybe I'm not able to... Thanks again.

My boyfriend has told me repeatedly that I am never happy. He then says "why can't you be fun and laugh?". Today I told him it's not ok to tell me that. There is absolutely no one else in my life who would ever say anything like that, I am a very happy and positive person. It makes me feel especially frustrated because I am trying to repair from a childhood of being told I am not good enough. I am a very sensitive person and I don't know how to help him see that he is feeding into the negative self talk I have been working so hard to reprogram. Am I over reacting? Any ideas about motivations for saying things like that?