My relationship is under a lot of stress and perhaps it might be coming to an end. Both my partner and I are finding it impossible to find mutual agreement on what we find is acceptable with sharing responsibilities around the house.
I am told I don't don't do enough to support her around the house and with other duties and I need some outside opinions on if how I feel is correct or if its wrong.
I work 5 days a week. Sometimes 6 10 hour days. So my morning consists of getting our 2 eldest ready for school and do the school run before getting into work for the day. After work I will normally go get food for tea and cook for the family, shes never been one to cook and i enjoy cooking so i dont mind. All be it sometimes it is just something to throw in the oven and wait.
We also have a newborn and we have a night on night off routine. One night I'll do the night feeds, the next she will do them. I will do a feed or nappy change and spend some time with the baby when the other kids are fed and in bed regardless of if its my night or not.
Recently I've been extremely tired and have fallen asleep on the sofa for an hour or so after the above has been done. There has been washing and cleaning to do, but with my job I have been mentally and physically drained.
My partner tells me I don't do enough to help her. She isn't working and hasn't been for a while and I know she hates this being the case. We're now at a point where we aren't talking, she feels I don't do enough for her, I'm lazy, even been called useless. She no longer shares a bed with me and I'm at a complete loss with what to do?
Am I wrong in believing I do more than enough to help support her and the kids by working, doing the school run, putting food on the table and doing alternative night feeds?
Am I expecting too much for the house and clothes to be washed as her contribution or am I wrong in this?
There's probably other factors in this that I haven't included. But I'd like some opinions and outside views on this. Because I do believe I am close to ending which once was a loving relationship.
Thanks in advance.
