Shaoli1

I feel like I'm only getting older. And I still do all of my hobbies and interests and hang with friends every week so I'm not disregarding things I love to do but I'm only getting older and I really need to find someone and I'm starting to feel pressure through it. Some of them are online dates and some aren't. These are girls that I'm meeting out places and also through my friends (friends of friends) type of thing. So they have seen me in person, agreed to give me their number and talk, and say they want to go out with me. It's after that time we go out where they say there isn't sexual chemistry and I don't even know what that means.

I do usually get them a second chance actually, sometimes even third just to make sure im not missing anything. And it's not about what they aren't showing me that is a turn off its what they are showing me. The ones I don't like we have nothing in common, they dont have any hobbies and interests except Netflix and hanging with their pets (boring and I will reject) they talk nonstop and I can't talk, things like that. And those are all things no girl could ever say about me so while I have good reasons for turning down the girls they never give me any reasons as to why they're turning me down. These are not all online dating app meetups. Some of them are girls I meet out places or girls I met already through my friends so they know exactly what I look like, sound like, and everything else. It's they go out with me and then after the date say there's no romantic chemistry. All of my friends, those that are girls, are trying to help me and they dont even know what's wrong. Most people say I can't believe girls won't get into a relationship with you, you have your life together more than anyone I know. Nobody seems to know what's happening every time I go out with these people. We go out, all dates last a good 2+ hours which from what I heat is really good. We talk a lot, have a lot of similar interests, similar lifestyles. Then after we leave we kiss and then go home.

I want second dates and usually give even the girls im not that into a second date and chance just to see if im missing anything. The girls I really like and are into dont really do that for me and i feel maybe chemistry is something that happens after the first date? Not sure I use everything. And I meet them both online and sometimes in person through friends or going out. I use bumble, hinge, match, eharmony

I'm not even really sure what to get from this I'm sorry haha. So like idk about you but have you ever not found someone attractive or didn't like them or wasn't interested in them, but proceeded to give them your phone number and go out on a date with them? Thats basically what's happening. They see me, they know what I look like, they've talked to me and know what I sound like, but after we go out officially one time they say there's no romantic or sexual chemistry even though they're kissing me.

I'd honestly rather not. It's expensive and time consuming and leaves me to be more sad

To put it easily, I am a 29 year old male. I've gone out on countless dates to the point where I'm kind of getting sick of it. These are both ONLINE and IN PERSON meetings. Why is it that every girl I go out with, one of two things happen. Either they really like me and I don't like them, or I really like them and they dont like me. There is never a mutual feeling between anyone at all. If I like them a lot I can leave the date assured that they won't like me at this point and it's pretty sad. They ALL across the board say the SAME exact thing somehow. I have like 15 different text messages all the same thing "I had such a great time, i feel comfortable around you, we can talk and spend hours together, similar interests, and you're good looking but there's no sexual chemistry" Why is this the only line I ever get from anyone that I'm actually into? It's literally driving me crazy. They all are okay with being friends, they even ask me "hey I don't feel any chemistry I haven't developed anything for you but if you want to stay friends I'm down" why is that all anyone ever wants but yet you give me your phone number in the first place, go out with me, and usually make out with me at the end of it. Do people usually know after a first date right away? I almost feel like they need to give it more than 1 date, does anyone do that?