nati

I have the feeling that I gave you all a really dark vision of how he is. He gets frustrated easily but he don't verbally assault me. He just let me feel his frustration. And I feel sad about it because I don't feel loved when he does like that. And yea many times he takes work out of my hand because he thinks he can do it better. But he changed really much since the beginning. Really really much.

We are together 5 years now. All for all he is a good boyfriend. He loves me very much and can't go to sleep if we fight. He isn't bad but I often see that he isn't always capable of doing right by someone emotions. We worked on that and other things in our relationship and it is better than before. But I just don't get that he can't be just a loving boyfriend. It seems that it is really difficult for him to have patience and letting things go and not having a certain control over the situation. Like he feels not heard when I dont do what he ask. But I am my own person too. As long as the results are the same I dont see why it has to be done in a certain way.

Yea I told him that we needed that a couple of times already. Today he finally agreed to it

I do it. I leave the conversation. Or just go to an other room at night. He comes to sit next to me then. Trying to talk things out but he doesn't get it.

I do say to him all the time that I dont like the way he talks to me. But he doesn't get it. He says that i don't understand him. And I m not making an effort to understand him.

3 examples of the last 4 days. Sunday we where setting up an office table. I was helping him. He asks me to look up the calculator on his phone. I was doing that as fast as I could. But I coulant Find it right away. In the mean time he was pressuring me to do faster, and explaining me how to Find it. To Find it fast I was just writing it in the search balk, as he just takes te phone out of my hand and act al irritated because I want looking for it like he told me to. Seconden example sunday night. I had my first sales on an online shop. And i was looking how to best send my product. When he just takes it out of my hand, because I wasnt doing it right he says… he then gets mad when I dont do it like he tells me. Third example is tuesday. I went to his work with somting to eat. And once he was home dinner was already made and I had light up a couple of candles. We decided to look up wedding songs, because we are getting married in a couple of months. And in the beginning it went wel but after a while I told him a wanted to let him hear a song that I liked for a wedding. ( all this was happening on my phone). So I took my phone back in my hands And looked it up. He didn't like it. But after that song I just scrolled to find other wedding songs we could hear togheter. He got upset And irritaded with me because we continued on that page for a bit. He says that I dont listen to him. And that he wanted to continue listening on the page we where before. I told him we where doing that for quite a bit already And I just wanted to try hearing other songs too. I just felt so awfull that we had to discuss about such a silly matter in such a hard way. Listening to wedding songs should have been a moment full of love. Even when he saw me in tears e didn't knew what he did wrong Why does he act this way? Am I over reacting?