Griffes

Do you think she did this to make me jealous? I had considered that but she has never been the type to play those games. However, I did wonder if this was some sort of 'test' to see if I still had feelings for her.

This might sound like a strange topic... but hear me out. My ex-gf and I are both in our mid-30s. We were friends long before we decided to get romantically involved. When we did get together, our relationship was pretty intense. Dizzying highs and crushing lows. We realised that we weren't bringing the best out of each other and decided to cool things off. For the sake of our friendship, we kept in touch. Although this has been a little difficult for me, as I still have strong feelings for her. One night at her apartment, my ex told me that she had recently been with a younger guy. This wasn't when we were together. She met a 21 year-old guy at a bar and went back to his place for the night. She told me he was very loving to her, cuddled her after sex, but the following day he was cold and has ghosted her ever since. She saw him in the street one day and he totally blanked her. Apparently, she wanted a "guy's opinion" on the matter and whether I thought she did something to put the guy off? First of all, this topic was EXTREMELY difficult for me. Firstly, because my head wanted to tell her that she basically got "pumped and dumped" by a young guy looking for a fling with a sexy old lady. But I didn't have the heart to say it. I'm surprised she didn't figure it out herself, although she might be in denial? Secondly, the thought of a guy treating her so cheaply was hard to take. Moreso, the fact she was trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt and blaming herself, rather than him. But what hurt me the most was that she went with such a young guy. I know that it's none of my business who she sleeps with, but I've felt personally offended by it. In my head, she must have been so unsatisfied with me that she went with a guy who was much younger, and presumably more attractive and better in bed than me. My ex isn't the type to typically have one-night stands, so the fact this guy seduced her into bed so quickly must speak to how charming he was. This has been constantly playing over in my head. I know it's my ego and pride that's been hurt but it's seriously dented my confidence about ever meeting another woman...