Salome1980

Yes, there is someone else that is my supervisor and it's a woman. He's does not make the schedules he just calls people if there is shortage at the store. He has about 10 to 13 people that he supervises not me. I know he's doing me a favor and I always thank him for that. I just don't go and hand out my phone number just to anyone. I have trust issues with people. I know that's my problem. Especially men.i just don't trust anyone anymore. It's hard for me to trust anyone. Even when it comes to work. That's why I got all hyped up about it. Im not trying to make into a big deal or anything. Literally not. That's why I don't appreciate it being done behind my back and me not knowing about it and telling me about it afterwards. I don't like that.

I asked one colleague about that tonight. She said they are allowed to have access to that information. Even managers that are not your higher up. Whether it's contact information or wants to see what kind of qualifications you have. I still don't understand why they would In the first place when there not even your higher up. He even told me in order for us to access personal information they would have to get permission from my manager to do a thorough search. Help me understand that please, not unless if they were snooping around or something. Which they shouldn't be in the first place. I get that he's doing his job. Everytime, I tell him thank you for letting me know. The managers that do call me usually call me from the company phone but I never expected him to call me from his personal phone. To me that's just odd. I just think that's not okay. And recently there was another misunderstanding, because there was a day I worked and he called me in to come to work. And my manager denied me working that day. Cuz she didn't know. She told me yea he never put you in the system. When I tried to confront it with him I asked him did you even put me on the schedule for that day he said he did and that the receptionist should had put you in the system. I'm like no they never did and he cost me my attendance. Do you see what I'm talking about now. He's unpredictable in every way shape and forum. This is why im having a hard time dealing with him.

I just messaged you a couple of hours ago. In my opinion it's not right for any manager to have access to every person's personal information. Not unless they were the person that hired you in the first place. Yea, if he was my hiring manager than that would be totally different and I'd be okay with it. He may be a manager or higher up he had no right to do that. If he came to me and asked me permission to access my files I'd be OK with it. But don't do it behind My back then tell me about it afterwards.

I admit I have a crush on him it's not like I'm gonna say something or act on it. The thing I'm struggling with is his behavior. And I've taken notice. Sense day 1 I met him. There are days that when he's at work and I'm working his demeanor changes from time to time. Sometimes he goes from hot to cold. One minute he's in a good mood one minute he's down and under and I don't know how to work around someone like that. Which puts me in an awkward position as far as having a regular conversation with him when he's not in the right frame of mind how am I supposed too. where it wont be awkward. Yea, he's a nice guy by texting me letting me know about available hours. So much more that bothers me about him and if I speak up and tell him the same thing I don't know how he would take it or react to it. Either I shut up and not say anything and let this go on for God knows how long or I talk to him about it and him going to HR and making a complaint about me and get me fired. Honestly it's bothersome to me. Either way I'm suffering and have to put up with his craziness when I do have dreams about him and mostly him relaying personal messages to me. Honestly, I'm at a loss. Not only that when I first started working at the mall he said something to me that kinda took me by surprise. He was not my hiring manager as I was passing by him one day he told me with your work experience you shouldn't have a problem working a register. I wanted to smack him right then and there because I not once spoke to him about my work history with him, I barely knew him. I don't know how he knew that information about me. I kept my mouth shut for 8 months and never brought it up to him. And now with the phone thing. I can't understand why he won't come and ask me these things instead of snooping around. Sometimes the things he does drives me crazy. So either way I'm screwed either i put up with this craziness or loose my job. .

It would had been nice if he came and asked me himself instead of going and snooping around that's all.

I don't know. That's why I put up this post to ask what all this means. I just don't appreciate my privacy being invaded. Yea, it it's work related only he could use the company phone. The managers that do contact me is from company phone but to call me on my personal phone without me not knowing is a little bit uncalled for. My own manager which is a lady is the only person that has my personal information. Not him. Yea, if he wanted my number he could had come and asked me and I would had given it to him just don't go behind my back and not telling me you have my personal info. I just don't appreciate that. If someone goes through your personal info without your consent what would you do ? Would you rather have them contact you through company phone or there personal phone? And plus this is not his first time doing something like this.

So your basically saying just deal with it even if we both are attracted to one another ? I don't know about him but I know I am. I'm trying to keep it professional as much as I can by not saying anything. Its difficult to do that when he's all over the place.

when it's work related he calls me nothing to do with personal conversations just work stuff. I never gave him my number. No, he never asked for my number. I don't know how he got my number.

All I'm trying to say is that I want to understand why he does with what he does ? I want to understand why he's acting the way he's been acting it's not about going to HR that's far from my mind. I just want to understand where his mind set is that's all. I don't know anything about his status. I'm just trying to understand where hes at as far as mind set and why he does things he does. Does he like me ? That I don't know about. Is that why he's been acting out ? And giving me these mixed signals? Someone please enlighten me and tell me what's going on with him. Yup, same person. It hasn't gotten to a point to where i need to notify HR. Yes, I like him. I admit it. Also I'm not going to HR to rat him out. Is it bothersome yea it is but not to a full extent for me to do that and look like a fool at the end. I also need input as to why men act out if assuming they like someone ? Am I missing something here ?

So I've been with the company for 8 months and each department has its own manager and there is this one manager that has gotten my attention. When I started working there he called me babe on 2 seperate occasions. I never brought it up to him. So I kept quiet. He's been giving me mixed signals from day 1 I started there. I'm trying to keep things on a professional level but he's making it complicated to make it work with him. He's always making intense eye contact with me and I feel this intense connection with him. Now his body language he is always leaning towards me. One day I was passing by him he mentioned to me about my work experience which I didn't know he knew about my work experience because I never told him. I understand sometimes managers call from company phone and I don't mind that. Why, he is using his personal phone I would never understand that part because I never gave him my number. Are they allowed to call from personal phone even though there not your manager ? I like him as a person but with all this going on and me picking up on his odd behaviors is making it difficult for me to be around him and work with him. I don't know his current martial status. Everytime there is always something going on and I can't seem to understand him.With getting all these mixed signals coming from him. Just don't know how to deal with all these mixed feelings i have for him. I keep telling myself he's bound to break one way or another it's just the matter of timing I just don't know how much more to take. Please any advice would do.

The dreams I have is not romantic. It's more work related stuff than personal. And relaying personal messages to me. And 2nd I don't have it in me to do something like this. I couldn't even if I wanted too. I don't want to do something where it's going to cost him his job or mine. I don't want to be wrong and make a fool out of myself. I never implied that it's sexual harassment.

When I first started working there he called me babe on 2 occasions. I didn't call him out on it. So I kept it to myself. He was not my hiring manager. I walked passed him one day he mentioned something about my work experience which he shouldn't have access to my resume because he was not my hiring manager. He had no right to access my information. I know managers have the right to call if your needed to come to work. They usually call from company phone. He on the other hand called from his personal cell. And I never gave him my number. His behavior is whats bothering the hell out of me. It's the things he does which makes me nervous to be around him. I'm trying to keep things professional he's making it hard by doing stupid things. And he thinks I haven't picked up on it. I'm not even interested in dating at all.

So I've been working at a retail company for 8 months now. And my hiring manager is a lady. Now, this company has multiple managers for different departments. Ever sense I started working there there is this one manager a guy that has caught my attention. During this past 8 months I've been noticing odd behaviors from him when I first started working there. Nothing to alarming. At first I was bothered by it on why he was acting strange but after a few months everything has calmed down. It made me very uncomfortable to work with him in the beginning due to the fact that he just made me nervous to be around him. For me it was awkward. Big time. I just couldn't understand him. I have taken notice in his odd behaviors when I'm around him which made me feel uncomfortable. He's a nice guy. I just can't understand him. He's in his late 40s and me in my early 40s. He's a very confusing individual. I have took notice in everything he does and says. Do I like him ! I like him as a person I just don't know how I feel. I'm still trying to figure out why im having such a hard time. After 8 months I'm struggling to work around him. Now, we've been talking more often than usual just work related stuff nothing personal. Sometimes, just basic regular conversation just the usual how's your day going and so forth. When I try to make eye contact things just feels to intense. For the past 3 months I've had nonstop dreams about him nothing romantic or anything and I get his messages through my dreams. Like he's trying to communicate with me in a more deeper level. I've kept my mouth shut for the past 8 months and not said anything to him not even once. The reason I'm afraid to say something to him is first I don't know what his current relationship status is, 2nd I don't want to loose my job, and 3rd he's a manager. He's not my manager. The more I keep quiet the more anxious and nervous I get being around him. The more we talk the more im finding myself getting closer to him. The more odd behaviors I see from him. And yes everyday is something new from him. The more eye contact we make the intensity and connection makes it stronger. I don't know how much longer I can keep up with this. This is literally killing me. I don't know how or what he feels. I just don't know why this is happening. I can't go up to him and tell him all this and risk my job. I'm just trying to understand why all this is happening. I'm a spiritual person so I do pick up on things. I just don't know what to do. I try keeping my distance away from him I find myself wanting to be around him. Please don't tell me switch jobs at this moment I can't. It's like a waiting game that one of us breaks and come out of denial. I don't know what to do. How do you deal with something that is too intense that makes it hard to work around ? How do you do that ? And will someone explain his behavior to me please. Sorry the post got to long I had to get it out. Thx for reading.