I need some relationship advice. My fiance and I have been engaged for six months, dated for two years before that, and were friends for five before that. We've been through alot together but as of late we've been spending less time together and she's been very distant. She broke off the engagement last week because she was struggling and loosing sleep due to the anxiety of the set date approaching.
Throughout our relationship she's been the one to keep me centered mentally and she still gives me joy and I really do love her and want to spend my life with her. But, in her own words she's reached a crossroads where by her own words she doesn't want to loose me as a friend because she knows I cant stay friends with EX's, which tells me that she doesnt want to be with me anymore, but also says she can see a future with us together.
I've given up alot for her and asked for nothing in return, gave up college to work a second job to make ends meet cause her anxiety made it so she cant work "a normal job", gave up a career in politics because she didn't want attention on her and her daughter (not my biological child but I love her like my daughter all the same), and left behind multiple groups of friends to spend more time with her.
In the end however, what matters the most to me is her happiness and the well being of her daughter. I've accepted that she might choose a path without me at this crossroads. What I don't know is what I should do. I want to support her no matter what path she chooses but I emotionally cant stay friends if we break up. It would cause me far too much pain to be that close to the woman I want to marry until those wounds heal eventually. At the same time, I don't want her to feel trapped in a relationship because shes afraid to "lose her best friend". I just feel really really guilty that no matter how this plays out shes gonna be in pain and that hurts me almost as much as the idea of breaking up does. I just dont see a way this could end without us both being in pain.
