To start, no I'm not mad because she didn't invite me to one bar with her friends. This has been an on going thing where she tends to have a lot of "girls nights out" where I'm not invited. We live about an hour from each other so our time is limited, and sometimes I feel that I'm the second, third, or fourth choice in the relationship. Last week she had plans to go on a Vegas trip with her friends to party for three days, in which she later invited me solely because she needed help to pay her hotel room, and then once she found girls that would help pay for the hotel, she uninvites me. This really hurt me and i felt used and like i was just for there her convivence. Well we have been in a rough patch since that day and decided we need to have a heart to heart at the end of the week on Friday. Well i think she missed me and didnt like how i was not texting her so on Wednesday she called me crying looking for support because her roommates were being mean to her. Despite me being upset, i made sure to talk to her on the phone till she calms down. She was incredibly thankful, calling me babe, and inviting me to Dave and Busters with her sister that night and saying how much she missed me.
Well carrying on to the next day, Thursday, she told me she had plans to have therapy and then go to a turtle race bar with one of her old roommates and one other girlfriend. She bailed on therapy that night because she told me she was mentally drained and said she still might go to the turtle racing bar. I didnt really like the idea of her going to a bar and bailing on therapy but i thought meeting up with an old friend is a great way to de stress, and a turtle racing bar sounds like so much fun. I didnt expect an invite because it was her friends who invited her and it would have been just her and two other girls. Well once she gets to the bar i found out that she isnt going to a turtle racing bar, shes going to a club with her roommates where one of them brought her brother (so its not just a girls night).
I was incredibly hurt again for not being invited again. She keeps claiming that she didn't invite me because we "were on the brink of our relationship" and that she "didn't think i would want to come". She claims we were on the brink of a relationship yet that didn't seem to stop her from callingme and asking for support, inviting me to Dave and Busters with her sister, calling me babe, texting me how much the support meant to her, and weren't fighting the day she went out we were just having a normal conversation. Am I missing something? She claims i am in the wrong for this and I'm truly lost right now.
Even if she did think we are on the brink, is going out getting drunk with friends the thing to do? Iv been trying to put in effort, talking to my therapist, looking for articles online to help us. I have not been partying or drinking or any of that.
TLDR: GF didn't invite me to the bar with her friends because we are "on the brink of a relationship", yet called me for support the night before, called me babe, and invited me to Dave and busters with her sister.
