Tathink97

Thank you so much ! I really appreciate your advice and will definitely look up for that book.

Thank you so much, I´m from EU so we have different after school standards. I think there is no residency in Slovakia. But I would definitelly think about buying some time, and try to help my mom. Yesterday she was calling me and was like a completely different person - she was nice and polite. Some days she acts crazy..some days she is normal...I miss her "mormal self" and want to help her so I wouldn´t need to cut her off completely. Now I´m working on my boundaries, do not be scared to say no, even if she threatens - I know she is just dramatic and wouldn´t do this.

She is mentally ill, diagnosed with schizoid and narcissistic disorder. In the past she saw a psychiatrist because she was convinced she was depressed (in fact she's just a hypochondriac) but she told the psychiatrist to fck off after she told her the truth about her mental state. I´m 25F and living with my longtime bf for 8 years now. My mother still tries to control my life and treats me like a child. When I tell her she's acting inappropriate she starts screaming and being agressive. She wants to plan our whole lives, furnish our house and tell us what to eat. She is insane. I was abused by her when I was a child. I do not have a father or other siblings. I moved out when I was 17 because she was so toxic. Recently my grandparents died so my mom doesn´t have any family except me. My bf´s family do not wanna talk to her because she made a scene once and told my MIL to fck off. She doesn´t know how to behave and really needs some professional help. I´m a medical student, I should graduate this summer. Me and my man actually plan a wedding after my graduation but I don´t want my mother there. She would ruin the whole ceremony. I´m so sad about this and mentally exhausted. I like her a lot but can´t forgive her how badly she treated me when I was young. I had no self esteem, no confidence and social anxiety. I got through this and feel so much better now and want to live my peaceful and drama free life. She is also asking about our seggs life and basicaly wants to know what we are doing 24/7. My bf is loosing his patience. The problem is that she has no boundaries and doesn´t know the word privacy. When I say nicely that I disagree with something, she tells me I´m selfish and ungrateful. Seriously, this needs to stop. But I don´t know how.