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Thanks for all the feedback, friends. Your input is highly valued and helpful. I dont have a hero complex i just hope shes safe and listens to me. I suppose ill stay out of it but remain vigilante and be ther if she needs it

Okay so she doesnt see him anymore, its the harassment hes been doing thats annoying me. i had to step in because she wasnt doing anything. Oh not interested to date her, Im a straight F guess i should have mentioned it! But ive been in abusive relationship when i was young and it was so hard so im hoping to get her out as i soon can

Yes, I had spoken to her about it over 20 times . the warning signs of abuse, the red flags, the whole ordeal. i am baffled myself why she doesnt do anything about it. i know she argues back a bit then she ignores him i contacted him to let him know shes not alone, and to warn him to stay away. shes a really close friend and i know her past and the trauma shes been going through im worried hes making her worse im worried i i aggravated the situation

Okay so 3 months ago my friend (24F) met this guy (22M) at work and he became very infatuated with her. At first they were friends and all was good but then he confessed that he loves her and wants to be her bf. She said she wasn't interested and wants to focus on her career and is happy to be friends. However after 2.5 months she was terminated and left the job. She had a habit of going to restaurants alone to chill, and he’d end up coming and trying to do nice gestures like pay for her meal but she didnt want to feel she owes him so she kept returning the favor. He also gifted her headphones which she accepted. For example he would show up down her apartment building and scream her name that he loves her . (she lives with her parents and siblings). When she had a video interview he was intentionally bent on distracting her so she wont do it on time, and he also made her cry that day and she ended up vomiting too. He screams at her, blames her for making him crazy, he tells her his family hates her because of what shes done to him, he screams and hits his head on the steering wheel.. Then he says hes so inlove with her it makes him crazy, wow Its a lot of red flags im overwhelmed typing this. Hes also manipulative, once when he was dropping her home, he faked being sick and asked her to accompany him to the clinic. If she doesnt pick his calls, he gets angry and insults her. He also tries to isolate her from others by saying theyre bad people like he tries to find fault in everyone in her life, he even spoke badly about me behind my back when he doesnt even know me (idc tho its just sad) Theres a lot more but this is the big picture and also what i remember. I know all this based on what she tells me. She would call me and start complaining about him, saying she's worried he might lay a hand on her, how low he makes her feel, how he insults her and then comes back hours later apologizing and asking for forgiveness. Its a daily basis type of thing, i would listen, make jokes but at the end i kept telling her she needs to cut ties bc this guy is dragging her down. She wants to be a flight attendant and she obviously needs a strong emotional mindset, plus she has a lot of her own issues she needs to resolve from her past. Anyway she wasn't listening to me. And so she called me yesterday and told me that he storied a screenshot where her name on his phone was called “The Cheapest”. He also had told her if he ever saw her with another guy, he would kill her. Like 5 times or so. I just lost it, and im like thats it i need to confront him . i told her what i am going to do, and i reached out to him, i had his # saved because she called me from his phone before when hers had died. I was direct and said he has no right to humiliate and harass her, and that he should seriously leave her alone, and that she will always be protected. well I was polite and concise - i also made it clear that this was on my own accord and she has no idea i reached out. He replied back im just not bothered to open it- but i did see him telling me to f*ck off and that idk anything and shes a liar apparently . oh and ofcourse he went and told her i texted hence her calls at 3am and asking me why i texted him oh well thats not gonna end well Im just conflicted if i did the wrong thing like overstepped boundaries but i genuinely am concerned because she isnt doing anything about it and im worried this will cause anxiety for her or PTSD I would really appreciate ur opinions, ENA fam