OliviaJJJ

We met where I work. He's always smiling, saying hello and making a point of saying goodbye. I think he has a nice smile. The other night he came up to me and said he would love to go for coffee if I was available. I don't know if he's married - he's always alone, but the thought did cross my mind. I think you're right that he chickened out. I didn't really buy the urgent matter excuse, but gave him the benefit of the doubt. When the reply came, I thought it was too ambiguous - i mean, its a cup of coffee, not the red carpet to the church. Seems silly he even asked in retrospect. If he's that fickle now, later would be a disaster.

Yes, this is what I thought, too. I thought the response was wishy washy. No definite time, right after I told him my exact availability. If he really wanted to reschedule, he would have simply nailed down a time. I didn't really buy the "urgent matter" but figured I would give him the benefit of the doubt since he did actually ask to reschedule. Once he sent the "maybe the Saturday could work" I decided he didn't actually want to go and was looking for a way out. I don't want to be strung along. At that point, I felt the best response was none.

This guy I've been noticing asked me out for coffee the other night and gave me his phone number. I texted him the next day and we set something up for Sunday. He texted at 9 am and said something urgent came up and could we reschedule until the following weekend. I said sure, no problem and gave him my availability for both Saturday and Sunday. He texted back a couple of hours later with "ok, maybe Saturday would work then." I found that to be a bit ambiguous given he was the one to cancel and ask to reschedule. I feel he should have been the one to nail down the time if he really wanted to see me. I didn't bother to respond. Am I being too harsh?