My husband has left to spend Christmas with his mothers and sisters, and their husbands, for New Year and will be away for six days (he spend a week there last month ans will spend a week there next month too) (seven hour drive away). I cannot go because we have dogs and cats to care for here - and his mother does not like me (prefers his ex wife) so i have not been there for three and a half years. He has spent every NY there without me since we married (four years) and he knows it will break my heart again. I was crying when he left. Previously, i have just had to stay at home for NY because i do not know anybody here (we live in france - he is French, i am not), but when i hinted this year that i might go to a party, he did not care. He has a terrible temper and recently told me (not for the first time) that he wishes he had stayed with his last wife (i am his third wife).
I recently told my husband that if he couldn't control his temper or spend more time with me (he spends a week away each month on his hobby), then we should just agree to live separate lives and see other people if we wanted to. He said no.
I am heart broken. Am i stupid, after all it is just one day; its abstract, isn't it. But i thought when we got together that i would always spend New Years with him. I am too old to be caring about this stuff really and i know it is irrational, but i keep bursting into tears when i am in the middle of something else. Am i being overemotional and stupid or is our marriage over.
to be honest, i am not sure how much i love him now. Sometimes i look at him and think how unattractive and stupid he is - sooo glad this is anonymous! But i am still so heartbroken because i was committed to the marriage and i am not interested in anybody else (despite a recent offer). I would love for him to change his mind and come back and spend NY with me. (pathetic) - he will not, not even if i ask him to.
Am i being silly?
How do i stop feeling so hurt?