hello, looking for advice.
me and my partner have been together for about 10 months now, but we've been friends for years. (went out to visit as a friend, realized we liked each other, got together). due to our history i moved into his place pretty early in the relationship (about 5 months in) and, realistically, everything is fine. we get along well, share most of the same beliefs and ideals, and have a rough future plan of what we want.
from the beginning though, he has always had a seemingly lower libido, at least lower than me. it has never been my expectation for him to match me as, while i love intimacy, i don't need it all the time. im perfectly capable of taking care of myself most of the time. that being said, it IS a requirement for me in a relationship.
im feeling stuck now because that lower libido has basically dropped to 0. it has been about a month since anything has happened, and im pretty open about what counts as intimacy. it doesn't have to be sex, i just need to be able to feel that bond with my partner.
in his defense, a few months ago he was on antidepressants but has now stopped and while i know this issue likely isn't his fault and i try to be understanding, I'm not gonna lie and say it's not hurting me.
my self esteem is rapidly dropping (especially since i wouldn't consider myself a pretty woman by any standard) and i wonder if he's just... bored of me. we don't seem to spend much time together anymore as he's gone back to working. i find it impossible to bring up because making him feel forced to be intimate with me feels just as bad and i don't want him to feel guilty about what he can't help, im just terrified of a dead bedroom & don't want to be in a long term relationship with somebody who isn't able to do a very, very low minimum.
as a sidenote, i don't think he is cheating. he doesn't disappear, act weird, and he's a very cut and dry person - if he didn't want to be with me, he wouldn't.
is it too soon to call it quits? do people come back from this?