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Some of you are assuming a lot also. There is no addiction problems unless you count cigarettes. There are no drugs and neither of us drink. We aren't living in poverty, I have 0 debt, all my bills are paid, and I can go find a job whenever I want. I've just started putting in applications and was actually supposed to have an interview today, but the manager got sick. The house is filled with expensive electronics and the kid is spoiled. I've been living off my savings since May. My lifestyle nor the kid's have changed. I quit my job because they passed me up for a promotion and new management created a toxic environment, and other reasons but that's a different story. I've been taking a much needed break from the work world. That is all. 100% my own decision to not work. I don't qualify for food stamps because of my savings. My son is home now so I don't have much time to reply individually but thanks for the suggestions.

It's a month to month, there is no lease. I pay cash to a private landlord. The problem with her going to her mom's is her mother is an abusive alcoholic.

She had it expunged from her record. So as far as the law is concerned, it never happened, and the way custody laws favor women, me getting full custody would never happen. I'd end up with half custody and paying child support. I've already lived that nightmare once. I lived with my parents until I was 30 years old because of it. I no longer have my parents to lean on. I would love nothing more than my son growing up in a healthy, stable and steady household but I think the reality is it's just not going to happen with her. I am willing to leave. I am able. I want nothing more than to get out but it would mean abandoning my son. I would go to Mexico (and live illegally but apparently 90% of Americans in Mexico already do so and Mexico doesn't really care) because this country's cost of living is out of control and I just can't take the greed anymore. I have $4000 to make it happen. I could get across the border, but then what? I'd be depressed as all hell, broke very soon, and end up working my ass off under the table for Mexican pesos and probably homeless. I mean I'd just be trading one hell for another. It'd be a new start at least, and the weather would help my depression, but the pros and cons seem equal whether I stay or go. And if I leave, my son would be stuck with her and her problems. Do I be selfish and go or do I be selfless and stay? My son is hurting either way. Technically "co-renting" but I have paid 100% of the rent for 100% of the time, she doesn't even have the landlord's phone number. I could give her notice and she would leave to her mom's right away cause that's how she is. But then I'm stuck in a place I'd have to leave anyways because I can't afford the rent and gas, electricity, and water on top of it and support myself with food, insurance, gasoline, and every other cost of living. I'd be one person in a 3 bedroom house I can't afford. I'm in between jobs with $4000 to my name, so moving to another place here is out of the question because they will require proof of income. I either stay here or move to Mexico and hope to find a dirt cheap place to live with cash while I search for an under the table job there. Neither option is worth choosing and I have to choose fast because my $4000 will be depleted by March 1st. Then I'll only have one option and that's to stay.

You can't sit there and tell me I'm wrong when I've done nothing except react poorly. I did not start this. I am not the instigator and I am going to defend myself against wrongful accusations. I grew up with a psychotic, schizophrenic, manic depressive mother and I know the situation all too well. My parents were married over 25 years before they each died 6 years apart. I don't know how I got myself into this but she does the same things my mother did to my father. And my poor father was innocent. He put up with so much to keep us together. And now I'm in the same situation.

She's at work, she texted me starting this. I hate texting. That's not what's happening. I browse tik tok, that's it. I sent her a funny one. She replied when I'm not around my phone. I read the message in bed next to her. I swipe it right to dismiss it, because she's right there. Her reply was "haha yeah that is what you do". It does not require a reply. I don't use texting, I hate texting, and I especially hate texting her, and this is why. Yeah I agree but I can't control when she texts me. Ending it in an adult and respectful manner ain't gonna happen with her. This will be the response and she will try breaking my stuff and storm off with the kid. Trust me I know how it will go down. She tried breaking my $2,000 TV just 2 weeks ago. She's broken my TV in the past. She's broken her ex'es stuff. She went to jail for domestic assault against me when she was pregnant. It ain't gonna be pretty unless I just up and leave with all my stuff when she's not here and block all communication with her. I am not hiding behind a screen. I don't want to argue with her and especially not through text. I didn't ask for this.

Ok, she replied through text to a tik tok i sent her last night. I read the message preview and cleared it as she was laying right next to me. Therefore no "read" receipt. This is what I get the next day. full transcript not edited. ()= note by me (background we've in a hellish relationship for 6 years and have a 5 year old son together) Her: Love how you don't even open my messages... Me: I read the preview and cleared the notification and you were sitting right next to me and there was no need to reply Me: I love how you attack me for no ***ing reason Her: I'm lonely :shrug: and cheating is bad Her: and it happens every day Her: So who are you talking to? Me: Oh I cleared a notification so that means I'm cheating (i've never cheated or talked to other people, she has been caught multiple times) Me: You're ridiculous Me: I'm turning chat features off (so she won't get read receipts anymore) Her: Not what I meant Her: I'm not allowed to talk to anybody else but you never replied to me (she has a history of talking to other guys) Her: reply Me: You were sitting right next to me Me: I'm not ***ing texting you when you're sitting right next to me Me: and I'm not ***ing replying the next day Me: and I'm not ***ing arguing about this Her: What about all the other times Her: I'm saying it because it happens daily Her: Not just last nights message Me: it's the same reason every time Her: Lol Me: Why would I text you when you are right there Her: When I'm at work. Jesus never mind. You are acting dense Me: I don't ignore you when you're at work (I don't know where she's coming up with this ***) Me: Wooo thanks another day ruined for no reason at all Me: You're such a peach Her: Lol day ruined? (yeah my day is ruined) Her: You're a ***ing drama queen Her: How dare I let you know that im bothered by something how dare I communicate Her: If I dont tell you what's bothering me you can't fix it Me: Bothered by nothing* there fixed it for you Her: K Her: But tch (I think she called me a ***) Me: Bothered because I didn't open the message app to read your short text Me: Wow Her: It happens on a regular base and I just told you I was Laney (lonely) Her: I should have known better to say anything to you Her: You don't care Her: Leave me alone I don't want to talk to you anymore Her: Don't worry Me: "I want to talk to *****, maybe I'll start a fight with him and accuse him of cheating" (I censored my name) Her: I'm communicating Her: You ***ing monkey brain Her: Leave me alone Her: I'm done Her: Bye Her: Wasn't starting a fight I was communicating. Don't ***ing punish me for trying to communicate Me: The level of disrespect is ***ing unreal Her: Why the *** can't hou just say I'm sorry I will try to respond better (I literally never not reply unless she's here and it's pointless because she's right there) Her: I hate you Her: I can't be with someone like you Her: Go to hell Her: There is nothing to respect (i've supported my family for 6 years paying the vast majority of bills, presents, repairs, bought her cars, gifts, tens of thousands of dollars worth of stuff, got her her job, etc but I'm a piece of *** apparently not worthy of respect) Her: I said one ***ing thing that wasn't even mean or bad and I'm starting a fight!?!? No the way you responded to me started this fight Her: Now I feel gross and more alone Her: Don't ***ing touch me ever again Her: I'm blocking your number. I can't deal with this Thoughts please