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I don't think so. He may very well be having mental health issues, but who knows with him.

I'm just leaving him alone for the time being. I think that;s the best thing I can do for the moment. Keeping trying to contact him is only going to make things worse. I'm going to wait a day or so and see what happens. As to him not saying he would treat me better, he hasn't spoken to me since last night. He may come to that realization. I don't know.

Well, I wondered about that. I asked him about it. I told him last night after the breakup message I said to him that I think he wanted to break up, but couldn't do it himself, and that's why he treated me this way. He responded to me saying, "Stop it (my name). That's also when he said he was going through a lot of mental like things right now.

But why? When I've been so good to him. I never treated him badly.

No, I have not messaged him anything since my message this morning asking him to come over. Part of me says it's just best to leave him alone right now. That's why I'm not texting him

Do any of you think he'll speak to me again? I'm asking that seriously. It worries me that he hasn't said anything at all to me. Even when we've fought before or had a hard time, he talked to me. This time he's saying nothing. Why?

I told him I wouldn't tolerate his behavior anymore. I know he knows. But is there any way to change that so he may consider coming back and treating me better? I want my daughter to see me as a strong woman. I just don't know how to do that

Yes, I do agree and that would kill me. Can I be that confident woman to him, or is it too late for that? If not, how do I do that? Isn't telling him that if he does that again, and he did last night, that i would break up with him if he did it again, not being confident?

But being alone isn't preferable to me. I want a relationship. I want to settle down and get married again (maybe not to him), I've been alone for a long time and I'm tired of it.

I told him this morning in the I don't want to break up message that I don't want to be treated like this anymore.

No, that's been in the course of 2 years. When things get hard for him, he shuts down. We had a fight last year and a couple of times he's needed space to sort things out.

I've told him that I don't like the way he treats and told him how it makes me feel, and if he does it again, I'm breaking up with him, and I did last night. I know my message this morning took back the breakup. That's because I don't really want to lose him.

Because before this started happening a few weeks ago, he's been a great guy. We get along well, we have a deep connection, We've had a really good relationship.

You are correct about that first part, She is my daughter and won't get these years back. But at the same time, I don't want her to see me sad. How can I not be when we've been together that length of time. Yes, in a sense he's left me alone. Why would he say things like he's not a good guy, say he's so sorry, and not deserving of a girlfriend if he's intent on being so disrespectful to me?

A couple of times when we've had a fight or hard time, he's said things like he needs some time to think, or he needs space, which i gave him. But he hasn't even said that. He's said nothing to me since his "I don't deserve a girlfriend" message last night. That's unusual for him to say absolutely nothing to me.