Sunshineandroses

No, we didn’t even make plans on what we were going to do together.

No he’s single.

I (25F) met this guy (42M) online last week. Usually I don’t date men too much older than me, but we had a lot in common and I was very attracted to him. He lives about 2 hours away from me in a different state, but he was in my city visiting family so we went out on Saturday. We spent 7 continuous hours together because he kept extending the date and suggesting other things to do together. We had great conversation, a lot of similarities and I felt like I could be myself around him. As it was getting later in the evening and places were closing, he asked if I wanted to just “chill” and go back to my apartment, or go to another bar, etc. not sure if that’s a red flag? I said no to go back to my place but we did go to one more bar. After he walked me to my car, I asked if I could kiss him and we had a full on makeout. He was a little nervous during our date to show physical affection I think so I decided to make the move to kiss. He asked me after if I wanted to hang out again and he said I should come up to see him. I also have friends in his town so I could make a day trip out of it. He texted me the morning after and said he had a great time with me. I texted him back to make plans for next weekend to go see him but he took hours to respond to each of my messages. I figured he’s just busy, whatever. So we made the plans for me to come up and I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been 2 days. It is different than our communication style before we met. I’m just nervous because I have gone on almost 10 previous dates since I started dating again a few months ago, and 50% of those men have ghosted me even though the dates went well. The others just fizzled out. Only one person reached out to me saying he didn’t feel a connection after the second date. Is it a red flag is he doesn’t reach out in between dates? Confused if he lost interest after meeting me.