starlight02

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years and moved in together this year. Every night he is playing video games with his friends and never spends any time with me. I don’t have a problem with this when it is for a few hours but eventually I start to ask him how long he is going to play for tonight or if he will play a game with me later and he just says he doesn’t know and continues playing. We have had multiple arguments about this and his response is always either “well we spent some time together earlier, i took you grocery shopping” or he is overly affectionate once he is done with games (which isn’t until the end of the night when we need to sleep) and says sorry but this is growing to be meaningless because he never changes his actions and we repeat the same thing the next day. It’s been like this for a few months now and it’s just getting worse. We haven’t been on a date in over 6 months and he always says that it’s because we don’t have a lot of money and we shouldn’t be spending it going out but we don’t even do things that are free anymore and it just feels like he has given up trying to make any effort in the relationship and I don’t know what to do anymore. I have thought about just moving on but it’s complicated with long distance relationships and us signing a lease together and I don’t know if I am just overreacting or if maybe there is a way to work this out? Just looking for some advice on where to go from here and if my feelings are legitimate…