I didn't say I wanted to break up, I told him I wasn't sure I could be with someone who put his ex before me. His ex was sending abusive messages to me and to him about me just because their son was texting me. It was only memes and stuff but she didn't like that he was bonding with me and got jealous. She started saying she would stop him seeing his kid unless he saw him at his house alone and took the kids phone away. He didn't defend me and didn't stand upto her when she was making demands. Instead he started staying at his place when he had his kid. I told him I didn't know if I could be with someone who wouldn't defend me and would let his ex dictate our relationship and his life that way. If we are a couple I should be bonding with his kid. I could understand if I was awful to his kid and then him being kept away but it was literally just because we were bonding. His ex doesn't want him around me but when she needs a sitter so she can go for a night out and has no one else... guess who's good enough to be around the kid then? She even dropped their kid off at his flat alone when she knew he was at mine and we all had covid. She called him a terrible dad because he wouldnt leave my house when he had covid to go and be with their son that she had left alone outside a flat she knew was empty. We had to get him a taxi to us and he ended up sick too and she kicked off because he brought him to my house. She has tried multiple times to split us up and he never defends me but gets defensive if I point out what she's doing and defends her. Of course I am going to tell him I'm not sure I can be with someone who will allow that.
We don't technically live together. He has his own place but is at mine everyday and night so may aswell live with me. That's why he doesn't help with bills. I don't mind too much cause I know he still has to pay rent for his place but sometimes when it comes to energy bills and food I do get a bit fed up that I do it all my self when him and his kid use alot but I pay it all. (He has him at my house now.)