I am a separated career driven woman, I have two older children (21 and 16). I have been friends with a younger guy who lives abroad for some time now. We have a friends with benefit relationship which we both went into without looking into it properly.
After 2 months we have decided to discuss some rules, this was after I told him I had been chatting with another guy. He has said, out of respect for me, that he would not seek attention from another person whilst we are FWB, and expects the same from me. I am in agreement with this.
It is also clear that we both want this as a long term FWB, after 18 years of marriage I am certainly not in any rush to seek a relationship. Is this healthy?
I am planning to meet with him in person for the first time in a few weeks, but this means we will be spending a whole chunk of time together, crossing many FWB boundaries like talking with each other, going for food, sightseeing etc.
Neither of us are deluded about what one expects from the other, there are many reasons why we cannot be together as a proper couple. But is it possible for us to have a long term FWB relationship, that could possibly span over a couple of years?
I have tried speaking with close friends about this, they find it difficult to comprehend why I do not want a full blown relationship and fail to see how this would work for me.
