Hi Everyone,
I would like to share my story. Me and my girlfriend got to know each other online and after 2 months of very sincere talking we promised commitment to each other and that we will wait for each other only.
Five months later we met in person and went on a trip. We had a very good time. However something in me was telling that I should make sure if she was honest with me and as much as I'm not proud of it. I looked into her phone.
It turned out according to her WhatsApp messages that she still kept meeting her ex. When we were talking she told me that she can't stand him and that they broke up 2 years ago. According to messages they not only met but also had sex more than once.
When I asked her about this she swore that her WhatsApp messages are wrong with date and mixed up and that the conversations are from a different year and she swore that they had nothing. However in their conversation there was a document exchange with a valid date which proved the date to be correct. She says she loves me and wants to be with me. But she would not admit her betrayal even though I asked her many times so then I can forgive her and move on.
Also it turned out that she was diagnosed last year with uterine cancer (stage 3) and breast lumps as well. I know for sure that this is true because her health is very bad.
I don't know what to do. I really love her and I want to trust her but her messages are strong proof. Plus she is going through difficult times because of her health. I can't forgive but I also can't just leave her behind in this state.
Thank you for reading.
Any advice and opinion is highly appreciated.
Kind regards.
