She did report the initial letter to HR but refused to give it to them when they asked for proof, so I don’t think any disciplinary action came from it. That also seemed very odd to me.
she is chasing a career and is a very very amiable person, she will avoid conflict at all costs. As far as I know she has not accepted any gifts since we have been together, but they were more than just a pack of pens or a candy bar, they were substantial gifts and she did accept several I know for sure.
So after all of this yesterday she said out of the blue she is going out of town on a trip with her girlfriends to tour vineyards, basically a drinking vacation. Her friend said partners were welcome but I wasn’t invited or even told about it. Again, just seems odd…normally she invites me to just about everything, so when I’m not invited on purpose it raises my attention.