trepboy123

Thank you for your kind words. Yes, im going to do exactly what is best for me now and level up my life in every aspect! My question is, do you recommend strict no contact?

Thanks, this was actually a very constructive read. I appreciate you taking the time to share your story. At the moment, it is so fresh that i am driven to heal by the hope that we have a future down the line. With each passing day that hope fades and im sure eventually i will reach a point of acceptance and indifference. Did you ever hear back from her?

honestly, if shhe needs to date other guys to realise what we had, then so be it. I can do the same, im a catch myself. I'm confident in the way i treated her aand the bond we had

you guys are ***ing brutal ahaha

I agree that happens, but also my sister literally married someone after they had a year apart. So it can happen, im not asking for guarentees, im simply asking what i can do to maximise those chances.

emotional attraction is 100% fluid, it can come and it can go. I've literally seen it with friends and family and their relationships. Althhougghh i agree thhe ex back people are scammers I went through a pretty difficult time with family issues, and projected this on to her. Its never been a trait in past relationships

Im aware she doesnt want to be with me right now, im simply looking for advice on how I can reattract her down the line.

I don't intend to be a doormat, im focusing on myself and havent been in contact for nearly 3 weeks. I didnt beg or plead, i simply said that her happiness was important to me and stepped aside. Im simply asking for your advice, as someone who has rekindled with an ex

Yeh, she definitely is. And i take responsibility for making her feel that way and projecting external issues onto the relationship. My question is, when you say 'space' do you mean no contact?

I've heard of girls whho outright say they arent in love anymore and then still go back to their exes? not sure why this has to be so clean cut

Yeh for sure i have growing to do, i lost myself in the relationship and wasn't focusing on my career and my friends enough. I know this isnt about wanting to date other people, she has low libido because of anti depressants and isn't interested in anyone else. Im going to focus on myself and my future as she has asked me to do, but couples do get back together sometimes and im not sure why I should give up all hope. She would outright tell me the truth if there was a different reason, thats something only I can know because I know the type of person she is.

Do you think this works with women coming back?

So completely no contact?

Hello all, I'm in a really tricky place after the love of my life ended things to learn to love herself without validation from a boy. Im 26 and she is 23 and she broke up with me a month ago. It was one of the most painful days of both our lives, we were both crying our eyes out. She insists that she still loves me and hopes that once we have grown as individuals, we can rekindle a new relationship. She has told me to move on and embrace myself and see what else is out there because she doesn't want to hold me back. I believe every word she is saying because of how honest she is and because she as never really spent anytime single. She has told me she still loves me and believes that if we are meant to be we will find our way back to each other. I'm aware that this may seem like a classic case of the exgirlfriend coming up with excuses but its more complicated than that because er mental health is not perfect and I don't disagree that we both have room for growth as individuals. However, I want her back and im confused as to how to best go about this. Any advice or success stories would be greatly welcomed, Thank you