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I don't see why not!

Looks like I'm gonna have to watch this very soon! I am so intrigued!

Thank you lovely! x

Thank you lovely x

This this THIS! I could not agree more with your entire post! Out of all the kind and lovely people offering their support and advice, there was always a few maybe not so sensitive to my situation, i do think i am over sensitive at times, but usually when people are grieving from a break up as you said, kindness and understanding is the best option. The harsh approach always rubbed me the wrong way, i understand it may be frustrating as a reader to keep seeing those posts, but they wouldn't be posting here if they were not deeply hurt and in a bad mindset in the first place, plus, speaking from experience, it's a big step to post your traumas on a public forum, people straight up telling you to 'move on' isn't quite that easy. I see hope as a tool, use it to get to where you want to be, everyone has hope, for many different reasons, and your advice and wisdom is spot on. you, cat, You're the light! Keep shining! Very happy to have crossed paths here 🙂 x

--Trying if this quote option works 🤞 Yes! Sadly during break ups, people forget how amazing and worthy of love they actually are, i was guilty of this, time is very healing. I will look that up now, hope its available to stream in the UK! x

I haven't quite worked out how to reply to members separately yet so i hope this will be okay! (showing my age here? maybe 😆) Oh my gosh, Batya, i have very strong memories of seeing you on these forums all these years ago! I can't recall if we ever interacted but absolutely thrilled to see you're here and thriving, your story is truly inspiring! 🥰 Sorry all, you're quite right, sometimes an ex will come back with their own selfish agenda, i can assure you i was not trying to instil false hope, i should have clarified that it isn't all what it may seem, but certainly disappearing from their lives is a win win for you, to heal and move forward, so if and when they return for whatever reason, you are in more of a position to decide what is best for YOU. 😉 Never ever forget your worth. Catfeeder you have made MY day, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post! I honestly wasnt sure anyone would read and i was just posting into the void haha, i hope to slowly come back and interact in these forums again, like i said they helped me so much when i was lonely and lost ❤️

A little background of myself: First of all this is a new account, as you can probably tell 😅 I honestly cannot remember my old log in details for the life of me. I'm a female from the uk. Back in 2006/07, I frequented these forums quite alot, i had just endured a traumatic breakup and was desperately looking for advice, support and just people to talk to, and the community was so welcoming and kind, i won't ever forget that! I wanted nothing more then to get back together with my ex, i was in a deep depression and everything i did just seemed to spiral me more and more, honestly a real dark part of my life. I lost sight of myself and my worth, i became obsessed with getting him back. (The story does gets better i promise lol) What i learned is, if you're trying to get your ex back, as hard as it is, you need to work on YOU, you need to put yourself first and focus on what you need, you really do need to try and cease contact with your ex, I believe NC (if possible) works wonders. You need to drop off the face of the earth from them, block all their social media accounts, you have to basically be dead to them. If i could go back and talk to my past self i would stress this point. Fast forward, that ex did infact end up coming back, begging to get back together and you know what? I rejected HIM! What a euphoric feeling that was! I realized that having that time apart and although it hurt like hell, i didn't actually want to be with him after all, he was toxic and our break up was a blessing in disguise. I have long since moved on from that relationship and had relationships with a few men, and i can honestly say, every single one of them has come back in some way, without fail, so don't ever give up hope, but you need to take some time for you and if, and when your ex comes back, you will be in a position to decide what YOU want, you may even find you don't want them back just like i did 😁 Honestly im sorry if this post seems pointless or boring, i just wanted to revisit this website and throw in my two cents, im not the best with words but i hope i have given a positive experience! x