I have to admit, the whole you shouldnt have to have that conversation after 3/4 months because you should both just.. know is a steaming pile of excrement, I am sorry.
That isn't the standard for every couple. I know I myself need a clear, sobre (this is my responsibility) discussion about are we labeling this? What are we? Do you wanna see anyone else?
If you risk not having that conversation purely because you feel like leaving it up to chance and good faith, youre putting yourself and the other person at risk of being hurt.
Also waffle, manipulating her behaviour? Huh, how so