husikr27

Yeh this was a big argument and we stopped speaking for 2/3 weeks and then we made up and just continued and speaking from there but this was many months ago. I mean since then we have kissed and what not but yeah I mean should have really ended it back then but just continued as we went on from there. I think it was more the needy aspect and not controlling and that is something which I did become less overtime but nonetheless, for the sake of the both of us seeing as she is isn't sure to end which could be because she wants me to 'stick around'. It is time to end this for the both of us and we can just carry on our separate ways

I guess this is the best thing to do to avoid any furthermore heartaches and headaches as you have pointed out. Yeh that is something I have probably really lost track of recently to be quite honest, I do need to remember that and rightly so. It happens you know these things and what are you saying is correct! Initial argument was about me getting too 'clingy' which she didn't like and it turned her off massively. She asked for space due to going through some personal difficulties and I didn't quite it at the time. Not sure why I still carried on talking to her afterwards should have really stopped many months ago, just got sucked into thinking this could have worked out eventually one way or another. But it is better late than never to leave now. I never really thought of it this way until seeing how you summarised it now to be honest, reading these posts have been a real eye opener for me. She doesn't seem to want to break it off as you said but as you have just said I guess I am just there if other options don't work out. I am not sure to be honest why I did that, don't really have an answer for that being honest it just kinda happened in the heat of the moment there and then. She say she did feel really embarrassed and what not. It does make sense why it would upset her. Thanks for everyone's replies, I've got the picture from the replies of what I need to do. Having invested a lot of time in this person and for this to be like this it will be difficult but it is for the greater good for myself going forwards. So do appreciate all the words and the replies from everyone above, sorry I can't reply to you all. This has caused me a lot of tension and what not, but it is best for me to break off from this now. I guess you could say I have been foolish for hanging around as long as I have.

This quite a long story so will attempt to keep this short as possible, I 24 (M) have been seeing this person 22 (F) for around 11 months now. Initially there was sexual chemistry between us but we had a major argument 2 months into seeing each other, this resulted in her saying she could not get aroused around me. Since then we have been seeing each other very frequently, we get on have the emotional connection. However she cannot commit to me as she says there is little sexual chemistry between us, she is a virgin so has never been sexually active but has a very high sex drive she masturbates 3/4 times a day. We have seen each other countless of times and have no problems with anything else. Having never been in this situation before as a guy I didn't know what to do and how to fix it and kind of just went on hoping things would be fixed. Recently, she attempted to create and see if there was any sexual chemistry between us by sending me pictures over texts. I did not acknowledge the pictures which she sent me and instead got off and masturbated to the pictures without even attempting to sext and get her to orgasm. This as a result has made her say she is not sexually attracted to me at all and feels repulsed that she does not want me to touch her anymore. As we have not been officially together during this time she has been speaking to other guys, she has stated that she has more sexual chemistry with this other guy than she has with me who she is also speaking to at the minute. Everything else with me is fine, we get on and have the emotional connection but she has stated the reason she cannot commit to being with me is the lack of sexual chemistry. She said following the recent incident that as I have been sexually active in the past she had better expectations from me and is really disappointed. We have spoke about ending this but she isn't sure, everything else with us fine. We get on and connect on every other level. Is there anyway back from this latest incident? As to why I didn't attempt to even acknowledge her after she sent me the pictures of her. I am not quite sure, recently my sexual drive has been very low whereas hers is very high even tho she is a virgin. Whilst she send me the pictures I also had porn on at the same time as I wanted to try increase my sex drive due to it being very low recently. This isn't something which I have told her about, due to the fact we are not sexually active. However she has made clear in the past few days she can no longer keep herself a virgin for much longer but could not see herself having sex with me after this recent incident. I am in love with her and haven't felt this way about any other girl and she does like me also but this is such a big thing and I am wondering is there anything I can do to recover from this situation or is it doomed to fail? I am not too fussed about her speaking to other guys as I completely trust her. I am not unhappy with the current situation, but having never been in this situation before as a guy I am not quite sure what to do?