Mystic5000

Well, to be perfectly honest with you, I'm newer to the dating world (have not had to deal with dating in SO long), so I'm feeling a little rusty when it comes to picking up on if someone is actually truly trying to flirt. I wanted to give examples and see if others could assist in breaking it down for me so I can better see the signs of real flirting vs being friendly. That way I can be carefum in work settings, navigate awkward situations (in which someone is trying to flirt but I don't want to pursue them) and of course how to help MYSELF with recognizing if someone I'm interested in may be flirting with me.

Thank you. I will be cautious. That is why I wanted to be sure this was actual flirting and not just friendliness. I want to be sure I know for sure so I can be careful and be aware more. I'm newer to the dating world (have not had to deal with dating in SO long), so I'm feeling a little rusty when it comes to picking up on if someone is actually truly trying to flirt lol

I understand that completely. I know tons of people LOVE the "game" of flirting. I wasn't referring to dating or relationship potential. I was simply asking if these sounded like he may be flirting. Now whatever reasons he has for flirting if he is... that will just have to be revealed with more time. He coumd just enjoy the aspect of it or any other number of reasons as you said. I just wanted to know if this behavior would qualify as flirty... or if it wasn't.

Does there have to be a reason? Is simply being curious a crime now or something? I just wanted to know if this would be considered flirty behavior or if it was just friendly.

Is it common for you to make unnecessary and false assumptions? I hardly "catalog" every interaction. These are simply key interactions that made me wonder if he could possibly be flirting...

I like him as a friend and co-worker 100%. Really great in that sense! As far as dating or even hooking up goes? Totally unsure on that. I am single. Pretty certain he is too. There's been no mention of a girlfriend or anything. He is a little younger than me, but we are both 21+. I am friendly to him because I am friendly with all my co-workers. I prefer to maintain a professional and approachable demeanor. I treat everyone the same at work - with respect.

I was wondering - how can you be sure if a co-worker is ACTUALLY trying to flirt with you vs. them just being friendly at work. Here are some examples that gave "suspicion" of potential flirting - *He always finds stuff to talk about with me. Even little, pointless things. It's like he absolutely HAS to talk to me. *He has started randomly using my name. He will say my name to get my attention, randomly use my name in a sentence when it wouldn't truly be necessary to use my name, etc. *He looks my way a lot. I will look up and catch him staring directly at me. He typically looks away quickly once he sees me look, but sometimes he will keep looking for a few seconds before turning. *He seems fidgety. He will adjust his clothes or mess around with his hair a lot. He also whistles a lot randomly when I'm around. Recently when we were cleaning up, he walked by me and randomly sang a verse of a song on the radio (he typically doesn't sing to the radio at work - he might whistle to certain songs but not sing). *He makes direct eye contact when we talk and tries to hold/keep my gaze/attention. *once he was working directly with me on something and he walked by me and said "huh?". I didn't know what he meant, so I said "what?" and he was like "Oh, I thought you said something". I said no, I hadn't said anything. *He started wearing cologne and seemed to want me to compliment it. He came over and said someone had said something about it and kept saying he thought it smelled good, so I took the bait and said it smelled nice. He seemed happy with that and made sure I knew what it was called and got me to tell him what I wear too. *He asked my age. I overheard someone asking him how old he was. He told them then came over to me and told me that person was wanting to know how old "we" were. I knew they hadn't asked "US" anything. It was JUST directed at him. I simply overheard it. He said they told him he looked young then asked me how old I was. I told him and he said what he would have guessed. So does that sound flirty? How can you tell the difference between true flirting and just being friendly?