willowfairy1

When I told a friend that we held hands (interlocking fingers which for me is quite intimate) and he did not let go, she told me he probably felt he did not know what to do next and that’s why he held my hand but not because he was enjoying it necessarily. ??

No casual sex before, just relationships that did not work. Some longer that others. Not many relationships though. I do take my time when it comes to guys getting to know them a bit better.

I have had sex and relationships before but I have never been attracted by a younger man before. I probably would not have paid him any attention to be honest if it wasn’t because I noticed a sort of cheeky behaviour from him towards me. But as I have said before not sure if it is just being friendly or actually flirting.

Thank you all so much for your comments and thoughts and for helping me organise mine. Yes, I do like him a lot, yes, he will move on, yes I probably want more. So I am going to do nothing and concentrate on other parts of my life. If something is meant to happen, it will.

Sorry if it confusing. I clearly am very attracted to him and if he felt the same I would like to have something however long it is going to last. I dont want to use him nor loose his company which I also clearly enjoy. I value him as a person and someone I would like to be in a relationship with , however I am not silly and I know it could perhaps not be a very long relationship because of his age. But it does not mean I don’t want a relationship, however long it lasts. does it make sense. And yes, I am scared of being rejected not only because I like him but because I don’t want him stop being a “friend”

I guess, perhaps I posted here because he is younger than me and don’t know how behave or how they behave at that age. Guys these days are a lot different to when I was 18. I clearly find him very attractive, and I do understand that it will become nothing in the future, but better to have had something than nothing at all? Is that so bad? I don’t want to use him either hence trying to ask for advice on how to read the signs?

I would not have a problem as I am not hiding anything and do not think us having fun is a bad thing if it is what we both want?

Because I don’t know if he is just being nice or he is flirting and wants more. I don’t want to misread the signs and make a fool of myself and spoil the friendship. Hence I am asking if when a young guy teases you, holds your stare and is not afraid to hug or his hands….is this flirting or just being nice? Perhaps he feels intimidated by an older woman?

So he is just flattered but not interested? how do I read his smiles and stares and teasing? just as being nice. In the past when dating, men have been closer to my age or older so at least to me flirting and body language seems to be different coming from a younger guy, hence not sure what he wants. A friend of mine says he acts like a peacock around me. My flirting is not heavy-duty at all, I have only innocently offered him a flower on valentines day. Once accidentally our hands touched and we held hands for a bit.....I have not obviously flirted with him as I need to understand first if he is flirting with me as I don't want to spoil the friendship we have now. Yes, I would like a bit more than friendship but...

I am single, and we go to the same gym so there is a few of us that go for a coffee after a session

I am 10 years older. I do remember when I was that age and I also remember being attracted to older men. Although he is very mature for his age, I am aware he is still developing and that he will move on. I am not looking for anything serious myself. I fancy and enjoy his company and I think he may feel the same? IS it so bad? I just want to see if someone can help me understand if he is flirting without asking directly and possibly risk his friendship.

I am 28

I am an older woman with a huge crush on an 18-year-old guy. I have never looked at anyone that young before like this. It all started when he started to tease me playfully. Nothing much but enough to see he was being cheeky and felt comfortable with me. I then started to see he was always looking at me when people said things about me. I thought perhaps he wants to see my reaction. If we are out and about he likes to tease me by getting close to me, to close in fact as in getting into my personal space without a problem. If I stare at him he will hold the stare and smile. I held his hand once and he did not let go. He also likes to share the music he likes with me. I gave him a flower on valentines day and he kept it and put it in water. so sweet. I know this will never be a proper relationship and I am ok with that. But before i` make a full of myself I want to know if he is, in fact, flirting with me or not? How can I read his body language? Is he interested or is he being nice? Please do not judge. we are both old enough.