silver19

I know that it would not be right to just "settle" and would be unfair to her. I did try to kindle some feelings awhile back but after 4 dates, I couldn't even bring myself to kiss her or hold her hand. the past 10 years have just been me working on myself while trying to find love. I am not rude or possessive or anything like that. I am always proactive and after getting to know someone a bit, I offer my number or ask her out on a date. I always offer to pay for dinner/lunch and try to take an honest interest in whoever I am on a date with. I do my best but it never works out for me and all I can say is "I understand". I feel like I am not handsome enough for even the decent-looking girls, not Christian enough for the Christian girls and not interesting enough for the rest. I go on dates whenever I can but like I said, it usually ends with the girl saying "I am just not feeling it" or just ghosting altogether. I am at a loss and frustrated I suppose. The relationship with the abusive woman lasted about a year and a half and she got angry over things that I had nothing to do with but took that anger out on me almost every day.

HI everyone, thanks for reading. I am 37, I have my own home, a good job and I am upfront about wanting to commit to marriage, kids and a serious relationship All I have wanted for the past 10 years is a committed relationship but despite multiple dates and various dating services/apps, I still cannot find someone who wants to be with me. All my romantic interests eventually end with the woman saying "You're great and easy to talk to but I just don't feel it". The last woman I dated was verbally abusive. I am in grad school and I work all day as a college advisor; I am tired of coming home to an empty house. I am tired and I feel my dream of becoming a husband and father dwindle every day. my question is, should I just settle? There is a woman that I know would probably date me and she is great mentally but I feel no physical attraction to her. However, in times like these, I feel that she may be my only shot at true love. What should I do?

Hi, this is my first post and I could really use some advice. So I have been talking with this girl named Erica for the past 3 weeks or so. We met on Match.com and after exchanging some texts, we agree to meet. the first date went great and we talked until closing and I mentioned that I'd love to meet her again. She agrees and we set up another date a few days later. Again, things seem to be going great and she shows me photos of her work as an animal veterinarian. I pay for our meal and we head to her car. I ask if we could hold hands as I walk her (and her dog) back to her car. Before she goes, I ask for a kiss and she agrees. I am riding high and go to bed happy. Then at 6AM, she sends me a text saying that she doesn't feel anything romantically and that she is too busy for a relationship. I don't understand the change of heart. She said it was "100% not" me and that she enjoys being single and doesn't want to put the time in for dating. I liked her a lot and I did my best. I understand eventually finding that her feelings were not strong but why the sudden change after we kust shared a kiss? I am still a little heartbroken over it, please help.