Okay so there’s this guy at a cafe that I’m a regular customer for. He hangs out there when he’s not working.
There was a time a couple of months ago where I didn’t know he was sitting next to me. At this point I just thought he was cute but didn’t have a crush on him. On this night he eventually asked me “hey you go to [school name] too? I glanced at your laptop and noticed.” And I froze up in the moment (I’m always feeling insecure about SOMEthing), because in my head I told myself “omg it’s the cute worker” and all I could say was “oh, yeah.” Lol. No I didn’t think this alone meant he’s interested in me, but at least he tried to strike up a convo.
Around a month ago I finally started making eye contact that lasted for more than 0.003 seconds. I told myself “ok I’ll just try to intentionally glance a few times to see if he’s at least interested in being friendly” and he would always give eye contact back. Any time he would go to my section of the cafe, which is usually quiet and empty or almost empty, he would look back at me before going somewhere else.
Then there were a couple of instances a few weeks ago where we seriously made eye contact like 40+ times, even when he wasn’t “in charge of my table” and thus didn’t need to see if I needed anything. And I would notice that he’d be really REALLY happy for no reason around me.
And he’d also come up to me sometimes and awkwardly ask me about really mundane topics, like noticing I have an energy drink with me and then we would talk about that.
He likes to tease me because I usually want a heater on and he always says that it’s not even cold, and I’ve been wearing a beanie/sweater/jeans combo for a couple months now. A couple of weeks ago, he said “I’m gonna sit next to you and you’ll see that I’m in shorts and a short sleeve shirt and with no heater!”
Yesterday, after not saying anything to my friend and I, and with both of us not giving each other eye contact the whole time, he approached us around closing and said “where were you guys on Wednesday? I was sitting here waiting for you guys to show up.”
Today is a Wednesday so I made sure to go. However, I initially came alone, and didn’t realize until a few minutes sitting down that he was sitting near me with a couple of friends. At that point I was already trying to study on my laptop.
I didn’t want to come across as a creep and I was feeling insecure so I didn’t make eye contact. Maybe I’m delusional but I noticed him looking over at me many times. I even heard his friend say “can you look over here and pay attention to me!”
Then when he had to leave with his friends I noticed that he looked at me and then let out a sigh and left.
Is there a chance that I’m delusional? Yeah. In fact obviously since there’s so many factors when it comes to attraction, obviously until a person asks you out, it’s more likely that you’re being delusional.
But I do think that at the very least he wants to be my friend. I think I come across as uninviting, especially when I’m sitting alone and not looking around.
We also know each others’ names but we’re not even on a first name basis yet.
Does it sound like I’m delusional? I’d appreciate any insight/advice.
