I (26M) matched with someone (24NB) on a dating app, and after a few messages we exchanged information and have been talking pretty much daily on Snapchat. We haven't met in person due to distance and financial concerns, but it is something that we both want (I think? That's what they've told me, and I definitely want to meet sometime). Things are going great from what I can tell. We vent to each other, talk about our hobbies, day to day things, dreams, aspirations, advice to one another. Our schedules finally aligned perfectly and we had a video chat for a few hours last night that I'm still elated from.
However, a few days ago, I checked up on their dating profile, which has been updated since last week. I know this shouldn't mean anything since we haven't agreed to be exclusive to each other yet. The thing is, it does? I kinda felt like a punch in the chest, as if I'm not good enough and they are looking for other options. It's my own insecurity and it's something that I gotta work on.
But wait, there's more. This person's living situation is volatile, and they are quite a ways from their friends and family. I thought about asking them to move in, but sat myself down and knew that it was too soon, that I was absolutely insane for thinking about it.
I truly think that this person is the best match I've ever gotten, and I don't want to rush into things, or mess it up. The thing is, I have these feelings that if I don't act, they'll find someone else. I'm at a loss. I really want things to go well here. What do you think about this situation? Do I just keep going and hope we get there, or do I let them know what I'm feeling and hope it doesn't backfire?
