kaihi

Thanks for taking the time to share your advice. I have met this person. We attended university together, but only met our final year. We rode public transit together on a daily and would get into conversations about everything we had in common. I’ve had a crush on them since the day I met them, but I couldn’t ever tell if it was reciprocated. The distance is a bummer. If they were closer, it would be easy to ask them out and see what it’s like in person. I guess I’m clinging onto that “what if” since I never could tell how they really felt when we were living in the same place.

Thanks for your advice! This put things into perspective for me. We attended university together. We met our final year, so we weren’t really friends (didn’t hang out) but were friendly on a daily.

I met them two years ago and they were flirty, but never asked me out. Last year I followed them on social media and we talked a bit before they ghosted… for a year. Last week, they reached out and wanted to facetime. We’ve spent five days in a row facetiming for hours at night while watching movies and just talking. They mentioned “wanting to make this work” despite living in different states now. They went through and liked every post I had ever made on my social media. Last night they told me that they couldn’t wait to talk more tomorrow. Today rolls around and they’re sending me funny videos all day then when it comes down to FaceTiming, they say someone decided to visit them and they can’t talk for today, tomorrow, maybe next week… Am I getting played? I’ve wanted to be with this person for so long that I feel that might be clouding my judgement. I feel like it’s too early on to ask who the friend is/if I did anything wrong. Thank you in advance for any wisdom shared!