So I (23Male) started dating a girl (22Female) early 2021. We are from the same hometown, met through a (sort of) mutual friend and started dating during Covid (no dinners, party's or activities). We hit it off in the beginning and it went well!
Unfortunately we started dating too serious too soon. The effect of that was that I wasn't able to be my energetic and funny self (I was too serious and not my funny self).
After dating for a while, she really wanted to fall in love with me (her words were: I really want to fall in love with you, you are such a good person, you look so good, I really like you and you really stand for all the values that I stand for as well!). But she also told me that she wasn't feeling the true spark after 6 or 7 dates and normally she would feel that spark after that time. She was thinking so much about why she wasn't falling in love with me that it stressed her out a lot/too much. We agreed that it wasn't our time and we ended the dating. (After that, we had little contact and two weeks later she was texting me very drunk and asked her friends to call me because she needed my help when she was drunk, which was kinda cute and a good sign I guess).
So that was in the beginning of 2021. Beginning of september 2021 we went for a drink again and it was lots of fun. I decided to take it super slow because I didn't want to hurry it. We agreed to go for another drink. Due to circumstances (both new studies which was super busy) we didn't speak for a while and it took some time to schedule our new date. After a while (1,5 months) we had contact again and she told me that after that drink in the beginning of september she also wanted to explore it more because she also felt that it maybe was more than just friends but in the meantime she met someone new and started talking to that guy and it was against her values to also go on a date with me at the same time (which I wouldn't do myself either).
Now, a few months later, what do I do? To be honest, I really want this to work out! I'm not a native English speaker so It's hard to tell the story correctly but she really is a person with a heart of pure gold and she has no bad intentions! I don't want to waste this oppurtunity. I don't know if she is still dating that guy but is it the time to send here a message, and if so, what shall I send her?
I want start dating her again and show here my energetic, crazy and funny side! I'm an attractive guy with enough attention from other girls but I first want to explore this opportunity further. How should I approach this? Any advice is very welcome!
